Ok so i am new to the community i have never posted anything before, so i hope im doing it right.

My daughter will be 2 next month and she has been at the same daycare since she was 9wks old. I absolutely love this daycare. So i noticed last year they hired a male teacher for the 4-5yr old class, he is in his early 20's. I just found this very odd, none of the men i know would ever even think of being a daycare teacher. Well i thought ok at least they put him with the older kids.

So then last month a new guy started, he looks to be about 19 or 20 and he is in the room that my daughter will move up to this summer. The "potty trainer" room, ok so my first thought was he is helping little girls potty train, really? I don't know for sure what he does in the class, but it is really really bugging me. I just don't understand why a young man would want to be a daycare teacher, it makes me think they have an ulterior motive or something.

Maybe im just paranoid but i do not want some teenager guy wiping my little girls bottom, no way!!! Am i the only one that feels like this? Help?

I have worked in several daycares, and they have all had men, including young ones, working there.
If a woman can wipe a boy's butt, a man can wipe a girl's butt. I don't think they can legally discriminate.
BUT. If you are going to a good daycare, they do not hire just anyone, they are careful with background checks and other procedures first.
And there are plenty of males who love children as much as women and want to be teachers, even pre school teachers, its not as rare as you think.
If I were you, I would trust in the daycare center's ability to screen potential employees. And for your own peace of mind, keep an eye on him, talk to him, get to know him, and ask your daughter what she thinks of him.

Well said H.Starr.

I'm pretty sure many people felt the same way when women first started becoming doctors and men first started becoming nurses.

Hi there,
I would agree with H. Starr that the men at your daycare likely went through a background check and were, of course, not just hired off the street. In fact, our main babysitter that we use is a young man (he is 18) and he is just wonderful with the kids. Men can love kids just as much as women - and remember that not all men are the "macho" type!

Thank you, cay, I'm glad we agree on something, haha.

I agree with everyone who posted before. You can't hold a grudge on the teacher just cuz he's a guy. I mean, this guy wanted to take me on a date a couple days ago... and he's 21 and wants to be an elementary teacher. I told him how unusual I thought it was... cuz the guy who got me pregnant doesn't wanna be a dad. So in my mind, it was weird for him to want to be a teacher of such young children. And he said, "I have a son who is 8 months old. I love children, and I wanna make a difference in their lives. You know, I might be the only kind word they hear? Or the only smiling face they see? They might go home to dumps... I wanna make a difference."

I WAS SOLD!!! Lol. We didn't go on a date though. I'm way too stressed, and way too close to my due date.

It is possible for younger men to actually WANT to spend time with little kids. It's rare, but it's possible. You gotta give him the benefit of the doubt. Just ask your little girl what happened at school that day. Did she learn anything new? Did she do well in potty training? If she says something that sounds inappropriate, then dig into it. But like the mommies before me said... They prolly background check those guys very well before hiring them.

I guess I'm in the minority on this one. Although, on principal I agree with what everyone else has said.

However, if it were my DD in the potty training class and young male was recently employed I would seriously be considering moving daycares. I love our daycare, she has been there since she was 12 weeks old. BUT - that would seriously bother me to no end. And I wouldn't feel confident that my DD would know how to communicate if something improper did occur, she doesn't have that mentality. Having been the victim of sexual abuse as a child, I wouldn't be able to even chance it happening to my DD. Yes, daycares do a thorough background check on employees, but what if its a new impulse by this employee and there's nothing in his background to find?? I dunno, just not sure I would be able to handle the chance of my DD going through or being subjected to that. Approximately 25% of girls are molested or sexually abused, I will do whatever I can to make sure my DD isn't in that statistic. My DD is in the potty training class and is now fully potty trained at 2 1/2 yrs old. I know that most of the time one teacher is in the adjoining bathroom with the kids going potty while the other teacher is in the main area with those children not going potty. Who's watching the teacher in the bathroom?? See, I would be totally paranoid over a man I only know from dropping off and picking up and idle chit chat during those times being exposed to my DD in a state of undress.

If a male teacher were employed in the next room, 4-5's, I think I would be okay with that. It's the whole potty training area I wouldn't be comfortable with. And the fact that my little toddler wouldn't be able to communicate she was touched improperly, and I don't want her to learn what improper touching is!! Ever!!

I'm all for equal opportunity employment and benefit of the doubt, but would rather someone else give that benefit of the doubt because I don't think I could do it with my DD. I won't even allow my own brother to take my DD to the bathroom or wipe her bottom, I certainly wouldn't let some male at the daycare do it. I 100% know my brother would NEVER cross that line, but it just doesn't sit well with me. Daddy is the only man that will ever be trusted by me to help in that area. But that all stems from my own personal experience, and probably shouldn't color advice to another mom.

I wasn't sexually abused as a child and I completely agree with ra11en. If I had a daugher, her father and grandfathers (if they were alive) would be the only males allowed to wipe her bottom.

I also agree with Ra11en... I realize its a double standard and unfair, but the idea just wouldn't sit well with me. I also think back to when I was that young and, like a lot of kids, was pretty shy especially around men. I think I would have been very uncomfortable with a man going into the bathroom with me.

I know i may exagerate but i don't even trust my husband giving my daughter a bath! I know i may be wrong on not trusting him but thats the way i think! Afeter seen so many REAL stories in the news i just don't know how to believe. Ofcourse he don't know this and i know he would never do any harm on our daughter because they love each other so much! My 4 year old will start going to pre-k in the same daycare this year and maybe she will be attending one of the class that have a male teacher/ He is so nice and my daughter sometimes play with him but i am not very and will not be happy if she goes to that class. He might be nice but i don't know how is his life! Well i might not have to know his life, but you know what i mean!