Hey all!

I'm new to this site and just wondered if anyone had any advice on how to deal emotionally with the whole ttc phase. Seeing that negative every month is making me so depressed and lose more and more hope. It's even harder because my husband is convinced that I'm pregnant. I'm 12dpo and had a negative test this morning but he thinks I took it to early as my temp dropped yesterday and rose again today. Any advice on how to deal emotionally or natural fertility aids that could help?

Thank you for listening!!

It took us 18 months to conceive and i may not be the best person to give advice but i quit taking tests. I actually did not get pregnant till i had fake symptoms cried my eyes out like prob at least 100 times and then quit actively trying. I then missed my period and did not end up testing till 2 or 3 days after i missed it. but i wouldn't test till after you miss your period it brings a lot of grief made me cry a lot. I would suggest you read a book maybe go to a concert. Do something else or maybe just drive yourself crazy for a long time and maybe you will end up like me cause i had given up and just cried for almost a week and then i was like i don't want to try anymore we didn't use protection but we only had sex once that month and i turned up pregnant.

But if i could go back and reason with myself before i would say to enjoy my husband a little more do more stuff together and spend less time worrying about what might be wrong with you and stop trying to contemplate how to secretly test my husbands sperm and enjoy not being pregnant because eventually it will come then you will be doing insane things like cutting pickles into your chili and getting horrible morning sickness. lol i think if i would have known more about the non fun parts of pregnancy i could have relaxed easier? Maybe.

Anyway i really hope you are able to chill out and have fun trying to conceive. It really gets awful sex is just another chore you sob about how you will never have a child at least once a month and constantly people that accidently get pregnant are on your mind how did they do it. but it will happen i'm sure just stay positive and try not to get consumed with it like i did :-)

I've read that another reason to wait until you miss a period is that almost 25% of pregnancies end up in miscarriage during the first two weeks. So even if you get a pos. test, you might still end up starting that month due to a natural miscarriage. With all the emotional drain with TTC, I would recommend waiting until your a couple days late before testing if you don't think you could handle knowing you had a natural miscarriage.

Hope this helps...

It's hard, isn't it? We spend years and plenty of $$ taking every precaution against getting pregnant, and then what is supposed to be so natural becomes an emotionally-draining chore...Add to that the fact that early pregnancy symptoms mirror PMS issues. It's a nightmare!

I agree with Ruth. DH and I were actively TTC for 4 months in the beginning of the year, charting and counting, with no results, just BFNs and disappointment. If I can give you any advice, it's this -- ENJOY the trying! Have fun, wear lingerie, laugh, right when the other gets home or early in the morning before the day starts, LAUGH...no matter how good your sex life is/was, it can always get better and only you know what will work best for you or what can be added for more fun. It really has made a world of difference for me!

My DH is fervent about the fact that 'it will happen when it is supposed to', but I want to conceive like YESTERDAY! Enjoying the journey in my opinion will make the destination just that much sweeter.

And I know that you don't want to hear all of this psycho-babble about having fun, not paying too clsoe attention - I didn't either! But as someone who has been there, I can tell you that I haven't been this happy in some time...and when we DO conceive, I will be ecstatic on top of already being happy

Best of luck to you!!