I have dealt with a lot of mixed feelings since having my baby who is extremely colicky. I am writing this to help me get some of my feelings out since dealing with a colicky baby is not easy and makes you a lot more emotional than having a good normal baby. Not all of my feelings about being a mother are happy ones as I am sometimes very resentful about it. Even though I love my baby VERY much it does not always mean the job is glamorous, and sometimes I do not like being a mother and giving up many parts of my life that I really enjoyed but won't be able to enjoy for a while until my baby grows up a little and the colic goes away. The colic is not just about the screaming for my baby, He also is very needy. He will not let me put him down at all without immediately crying for me to pick him back up. He hates car rides, he will not follow an eating schedule or a sleeping schedule, the things that he enjoys change from day-to-day. One night he will sleep in a gliding bed, the next in a crib, one night swaddled while one night no blankets at all. He is very unpredictable. Another thing that makes it hard for me is how little my husband helps me out since he does not have the patience to deal with the colic and the screaming. I just want other moms to know that it is okay to have different feelings than other moms and they don't always have to be happy. Many people who do not have colicky babies do not even come close to understanding how we feel and how much more stress we carry around.

In response to AnnBanana....having a colicky baby is hard! I have a 2 1/2 month old who has been a mess from birth! We have switched to Nutramigen and put her on Prevacid but she is still fussy. She does sleep through the night now but all day is fussing and fussing...wants to be walked, moved, this and that. Hates the car, hates her swing, hates being laid down at all. She sleeps in her Papizan in our room. Anyways my hubby is wonderful but even he went through some days where I could not give her over to him because she would make him go crazy. During those times I tried to give her to him for feedings since she would not cry through those. I also tried showing him what was working that day for me to calm her. She also likes baths so I would have him give her a bath. The more he can get some time in where he is with baby not crying the better the bond will be! Everyone keeps telling us they will outgrow it. WHEN?! She is 3 months old next week....I also have a 3 year old begging for attention so at least your not dealing with that too ) I also think back to the days when I just had my 3 year old, he was such a good laid back baby that it makes it even harder to deal with our newborn.

I have noticed with mine she is usually overstimulated and needs to sleep when she is fussy. Sooo the minute I see her yawn or she won't let me sit with her I get her in her papizan with a pacifier and she fusses/sometimes screams but usually goes to sleep within 15 minutes. Before this I had to walk her a certain way EVERY time she was sleepy and she would just flail around and go nuts. I thought, I know she is tired....I know the papizan is where she is comfortable sleeping so thats where I am going to put her when she gets like this. working so far. I also noticed right when I put her down like in her play gym or in her crib ti look at the mobile she starts to cry...sometimes if I put my hands on both sides of her face, tell her I am still there and rub her legs and arms she will calm down and let me stay there with her rubbing her legs, arms, tummy. Its not much but at least it gives me a break from walking with her.

Hey!

This is just a message of support for all those who deal with colicky babies right now: just hold on, coz they WILL grow out of it. I know it doesn't help much when you haven't slept in days and your infant is screaming nonstop, but when it's over you'll really get to enjoy your baby. Do not be ashamed if you feel resentful and not very loving towards your baby, I think anyone with a colicky baby has been there. I once nervously collapsed in front of my husband after a hard afternoon and sobbed that we had made a huge mistake and that we should never had had a baby and how happy we were before, and why no one told me it was going to be so hard, yadayadayada...Now our baby is five month old (colic progressively stopped from about 3 and a half month) and I feel so silly. We love him so much, he is such a happy, smily baby, everyday I wake up (after a good night of sleep :-) feeling so blessed...and so will you!

I have a three week old son who I would like to get an opinion on whether he has colic? He wants to be held constantly I can not put him down for more than 10 minutes at a time or he will start screaming. He is very gassy and cries when he toots. He will not sleep by himself at night. The only way I can get him to sleep is putting him on my chest or crandling him in my arms right beside me. As soon as I try putting him in his crib he wakes up and cries for me to hold him. Does he have seperation anxiety or colic? Any opinions. I found myself getting frustrated because I can't get anything done during the day but hold him and than I feel horrible that I am getting upset at a little precious helpless baby! Help!