dh and i didn't think about sex untill byron was about 3 month. he worked all day and i was up all night. now byrons 18 month i still dread it, he's trim and slim and i'm still fat. oh well. like the other ladies said just try it. maybe a nice massage with some heated oil to start.

i swear my biggest turn on in the beginning was a foot rub.

I had the same problem, however I had a C-Section that did not heal so well...so I had a few extra weeks to put it off. Even though I didn't feel like I did pre-pregnancy and baby , my hubby's "desire" for ME made it a little bit easier...that and like a few others have said, Wine...not too much, just enough to relax. If your really not ready, just tell him... all the emmotions floating around are hard to get a grip on .. he will probably understand, dissapointed maybe.

Okay i'm about 2 months postpartum but i seriously don't see myself dreading it for a whole year. I'm with the wine and pussycat dolls girl, it's all in the mindset. Maybe if we stop thinking of it as something to please them and remember that we need to get ours too!!! I'm really self conscious of my new tummy especially with my stretch marks, so i'm gonna try and wear a sexy teddy that covers it the first time.... Hello again sex life, here i come! No pun intended haha

Yeah, my son just turned a year old. When the baby goes down and daddy wants some action, all I can think of is "I'm tired"! But recently we've been turning on soothing music and a foot massage which helps. Once we begin I remember how nice it is... but it's just getting in the mood that's tough. Deff while you have a one year old running around, sex is the last thing on your mind.

We are all here for you and know how you feel. If you really do not want to participate yet, talk to him. Maybe you will change your mind.
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my daughter is now 14 months and i wouldn't mind doing it more often. don't feel too guilty. but give it a chance because it's good for your marriage. if you can afford it, find a sitter and include it with a nice date night so that there's great food and conversation to boot. Try using gels. My body took almost a year to get back into the swing of things and we both had good laughs trying aids. but yes, i felt the same way you did until about three months ago. As my daughter is becoming more self sufficient and no longer breast feeding, I am gaining my energy back and also loosing the anti-sex feelings. perhaps it's hormonally related.