I'm just having one of those days where I feel overwhelmed with panic about being pregnant in general and especially about being pregnant with two babies at once. I guess I've read too many books about all the risks of carrying multiples and I'm still freaked out by the subchorionic bleeding I've been having. I've been following my sister's pregnancy and all her struggles to keep from having her twins way too early. I've also met or heard about too many families whose twins or multiples were severely premature, had things like TTTS, did not survive or spent months or even years in the hospital and had life-long problems. Everyone probably feels like this when they think about the risks: I'm not strong enough to lose another pregnancy and have to start over, and I cannot bear the thought of seeing my children suffer like that. I don't mean to be depressing. I'm really trying to get a hold of myself and be optimistic. Just needed to vent because people keep telling me how lucky I am to have all the benefits of two pregnancies with only the inconveniences of one.

Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. You'll be fine and remember that you are never given more than you can handle.

I'm sure you're right. I'll try to remember that most of the things that are scaring me are totally out of my control now that I've taken this plunge.

Ombeline, how far along are you? My babies were born at 26.3 wks gestation and they had no problems once they got out of the NICU (71 days for my son, 76 for my daughter)...I know, we're among the lucky few. I don't really remember much of their first 18 months, after that, it's like a light went on and it started being more fun. I was going to give you some words of wisdom, but being from a family with twins, I'm sure you've heard your share already. I will tell you this though, something that got me through some rough times, a mom of older twins came up to me one day and told me "God only give twins to those of us that can handle it". Good luck, and God bless!

Tiffany, I'm only just past the 10 weeks G mark, as far as I know (first real ultrasound will tell me more next week), so we three still have a long way to go together. They seem to be sharing a placenta (identical??) but I wonder if two placentas might have fused.

Actually, I'll take all the words of wisdom I can get! I know nothing at all about raising twins so I'd love to hear from experienced moms like you. The fraternals in the family were my mother's cousins, my great-grandparents and other slightly distant relations, no one I grew up around. I never dreamed of having twins and it's a weird coincidence for my sis and me. Hers are B/G and I'm hoping mine are, too, but I already love them, whatever they are.

I'm starting to get used to the idea of carrying twins and I wouldn't want to "send one of them back" for anything in the world, but I had a week or two of panic while I digested the news.

The logistics will be complicated because we live in a teeny one-room apartment, don't have any close friends nearby and family is a 12-hour (and expensive) flight away. But that part doesn't worry me too much. We'll learn to be parents as we go along, and we'll manage. I just want to get them here safely.

That's such a long separation from your babies! But I'm delighted to hear that they are OK in spite of being born so early. I'll tell my sister about them to cheer her up. I guess she's doing well. She's been on bed rest since, well, forever and hospitalized since they were almost born at 27 weeks. Amazingly, she's made it to almost 30 (with the help of lots of medical intervention) and it looks like both kids have grown to about 4 lbs. She was admitted to labor and delivery last night, totally effaced and dilated, and it looks like it may be any minute now. I'm waiting for the phone to ring to tell me I'm an aunt again, twice!

I'm just praying for them to be healthy. If anything goes wrong, I'll be heartbroken for her and my BIL and, of course, even more worried about my own two. But at this point I think they should be OK.

Take care and thanks for your kind wishes! I look forward to learning more from you.