HAS ANYONE EVER FELT ALONE, DURING PREGNANCY? COS I FEEL LIKE THAT AT TIMES. I FELT LIKE THAT AT 12WKS. THEN AGAIN YESTERDAY. IT BUMS ME OUT SO MUCH THAT ILL START TO CRY.

IM NOT SURE I CAN EVEN DESCRIBE THE "ALONE FEELING". I MEAN, MY BF IS IN THE PICTURE. HES BEEN AWESOME SINCE WE'VE FOUND OUT. SO I KNOW ITS NOT COMING FROM THAT. BUT I JUST FEEL ALONE.

MAYBE IT HAS TO DO WITH FRIENDS? OR SOMETHING. I FEEL EXCLUDED. AND THOUGH I KNOW I CANT GO OUT AND PARTY LIKE I USED TO, AND WHILE IM FINE WITH THAT (partying has pretty much been out of my system for a while) IT JUST FEELS HURTFUL THAT THE GIRLS I ONCE CONSIDERED MY GREATEST BUDS, DONT INCLUDE ME IN ANYTHING ANYMORE. IM NOT DEFECTED. YES IM PREGNANT. OF COURSE IM CHANGING. BUT I FEEL IM STILL THE SAME ME. I JUST DONT DRINK ANYMORE. IVE NEVER SMOKED. IM JUST MORE CHILL.

ONE OF MY FRIENDS, SHE HAS A CHILD, HES 10/11? SHE HAD HIM PRETTY YOUNG, SO I CAN UNDERSTAND THAT SHE WANTS TO HAVE FUN NOW, COS SHE COULDNT BACK THEN. BUT I DONT KNOW, I GET TIRED OF PEOPLE TELLING ME "YOU'VE CHANGED" EVEN FROM FAMILY MEMBERS. BUT ITS LIKE, HELLO!?!?! IM GROWING UP. I CANT STAY STUCK IN THE PARTY PHASE FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE. IM READY TO MOVE ON WITH MY LIFE. IT JUST FEELS LIKE PEOPLE VIEW ME DIFFERENT. AND I DONT LIKE THAT. IT MAKES ME FEEL ALONE.

I KEEP TELLING MYSELF "WHO NEEDS FREINDS?" IN ABOUT 5 MORE MONTHS ILL BE GAINING A NEW ONE. AND ASIDE FROM MY GUY, THATS ALL I NEED.

BUT I STILL FIND IT HARD TO SHAKE THE "ALONE" FEELING. I TRY TO KEEP ALL OF MY CONVERSATIONS (if any) WITH FRIENDS AS THEY WERE BEFORE, I DONT WANT TO BE A BORE OR TALK ABOUT MY PREGNANCY EVERY TIME.. BUT I MEAN, NOTHING ELSE IS NEW WITH ME.. LOL.. OR GOING ON MY LIFE.. OTHER THAN HOW ME AND MY GUY ARE PREPARING FOR BABY... ETC ETC..

I DONT KNOW. *SIGHS* I GUESS IT ALL DOES BOIL DOWN TO MISSING MY FRIENDS. BUT, WE JUST ARENT ON THE SAME PAGE LET ALONE LEVEL OF MATURITY.

It sounds like you need to get some mommy friends. If you take a birthing class, that is a good place to meet new moms who will have a baby around the same age as yours.

Your old friends can't understand what you are going through and won't until they have a baby. You can still be friends with them, but you also need friends who understand the mommy side of you.

**HUGS** It is VERY normal to feel alone and isolated when you are pregnant. Your internal focus is so changed and no one who is not also pregnant (or remembers being pregnant) can completely understand, not even your significant other...

All of the sudden, even small decisions like staying out late are viewed through a different lens as you consider how the decision (like lack of sleep) could affect your growing bundle. Keep in touch with your old friends, but take this time to meet some new friends who are in a similar situation as you. This forum is a great place to meet friends, but also consider reaching out to an expectant mothers group or mommy and me (tell them you're in training) group in your area and take the opportunity to share your excitement, concerns, etc with some people who really understand.

Even with support, you will still have some moments when you feeling completely isolated. I know I did... It's normal. You are preparing for a responsibility that is so huge, you at times feel as if the world is moving along without you. It's ok, take a step back and dream a little about holding your baby in your arms. This is a great chance to reflect on who you WANT to be as a mother and take steps to make that happen!

You said it, sister! Lol that is exactly what me and my guy are discussing right now.. Everyone is just treating us differently.. Ahhhh! That is one reason i joined this site.. Hopefully to make new mommy buds..