Sounds just like my hubby. I wanted to have kids right away and have 4-6 of them. He wanted to wait a few years until he was "ready" and only have 2 kids. We've been married 3 years and I'm pregnant with #2. Basically, we had an oops with our first 7 months after getting married and he HAD to be ready for kids. The second was kinda an oops too, but I was totally ready for it. And once again, he has no choice but to be ready. Sounds terrible, but you may have to "slip up" with the birth control if you want a baby now. Once that baby comes, he's not going to want to send it back. My grandpa didn't want any kids, but my grandma "forgot" to take her birth control and got 4 kids. And he was happy with them all.

Please tell me you seriously aren't planning on "tricking" your husband into having a baby by stopping your BC. Did you talk about having kids before you got married? This is something my husband and I talked about before we got married and we both knew that we wanted to have kids in the future. My husband is 6 years older than I am and he says he's ready to have kids. Until recently, I wasn't. I was being selfish and didn't want to give up my "me" time. We started TTC in July and it hasn't happened yet. We have been married for three years and I will be 28. He kept telling me he was getting old. I told him, "to bad". That may sound mean, but I knew I wasn't ready. I know you have your plan all worked out, but sometimes the best laid plans don't work out. Would you seriously think of leaving your husband because he isn't ready for kids at this moment? Didn't you say "For better or worse" when you got married? It sounds like you really want these kids, but aren't willing to listen to what your husband has to say. Before you do anything, you need to talk to him about what he wants and why he isn't ready for kids yet. If you can't communicate about this, what will your future hold when there are decisions to be made about the kids that you "tricked" him into having? Do you want your kids to grow up with parents who aren't mature enough to talk through their problems? Sometimes God has another plan for you other than the one you worked out.

I agree with others that you should not "forget" to take your bc. I can't imagine that your husband would be oblivious to that possibility and it will ruin the trust in your relationship. You should sit down and talk - don't accuse, don't argue, just talk. Explain to him again why you don't want to wait any longer and ask him why he does. My husband was worried about TTC until we talked about age (he was 33 and I was 28) and how old we would be when our potential children would reach certain ages. He realized that he didn't want to be the "really old" parent (his words) and that we should get started. Now we have a beautiful 9 month old daughter.

Also, I have the following questions: Did you discuss your long-term plans w/ your husband before your marriage? If so, what did he say? If you didn't, why not?