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Posted: 07-30-2009, 12:07 AM
Post Subject: cannot get 11 month old to take naps!!!
Hello. I have an 11 month old little girl. I'm still breastfeeding exclusively and most of the time she will not go to sleep unless she is nursed. During the day I will sit down and nurse her and she will fall asleep but as soon as I get up and try to put her down into her crib she will wake up and scream. So I end up nursing her again and trying to lay her down again. After a couple of tries I will finally resign myself to letting her just sleep in my arms. the problem with that though is that I cannot get anything done while she's sleeping on me and she won't take a very long nap. What can I do to get her to sleep in her crib during the day? She does ok at night once I finally get her to sleep. She pulls the same routine as during the day but with fewer tries on my part to get her to sleep in her crib.
Note: She gave up her pacifier around 6 months and does not take a bottle so those options are out.
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Posted: 08-16-2009, 11:56 PM
ok no pacifier or bottles this is a hard case i think she's old enough to cry it out if you want to leave her in her crib she is used to falling asleep at your brest and not the crib they say you should lay her down hafe drouse but not fully asleep so the baby gets used to the crib rather then your arms and brest. try cry it out if you believe in it for your daughters age.
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Posted: 08-17-2009, 12:08 AM
I also say do CIO. It worked great for our daughter. I think we started around 9 months. Rock her until she is so sleepy she could pass out at any time. Put her in her crib, tell you you love you and walk out of the room. Make sure she has a night light and something to snuggle with. She will cry her eyes out, and it is heart breaking, but so worth it. For her and for you. She needs to get a good rest and that is hard to do in someones arms. Our daughter only cried for 3 nights, on the 4th, she just went to sleep. If you are uncomfortable with that you can go back in after 5 minutes, then after 10 minutes (google the Ferber Method). The point is to teach her how to fall asleep on her own. It is a good life lesson to have, and she will sleep much better. Also, if she wakes up in the middle of the night, she wont need you to nurse her, she would just put herself back to sleep.
It is going to be hard, but you have to be stern. Do not let her "manipulate" you. There are other ways to get a child to sleep on their own, but I used CIO. Also, I would start it at bedtime instead of naptime. You can still nurse her and rock her but just make sure you put her in her crib awake. You can stand there and pat her back if you want, but I found that only frustrated my daughter more cuz she just wanted me to pick her up. Let me know if you need any more info on it. Good luck!
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Posted: 08-17-2009, 12:13 AM
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Originally Posted by NaomiK
I also say do CIO. It worked great for our daughter. I think we started around 9 months. Rock her until she is so sleepy she could pass out at any time. Put her in her crib, tell you you love you and walk out of the room. Make sure she has a night light and something to snuggle with. She will cry her eyes out, and it is heart breaking, but so worth it. For her and for you. She needs to get a good rest and that is hard to do in someones arms. Our daughter only cried for 3 nights, on the 4th, she just went to sleep. If you are uncomfortable with that you can go back in after 5 minutes, then after 10 minutes (google the Ferber Method). The point is to teach her how to fall asleep on her own. It is a good life lesson to have, and she will sleep much better. Also, if she wakes up in the middle of the night, she wont need you to nurse her, she would just put herself back to sleep.
It is going to be hard, but you have to be stern. Do not let her "manipulate" you. There are other ways to get a child to sleep on their own, but I used CIO. Also, I would start it at bedtime instead of naptime. You can still nurse her and rock her but just make sure you put her in her crib awake. You can stand there and pat her back if you want, but I found that only frustrated my daughter more cuz she just wanted me to pick her up. Let me know if you need any more info on it. Good luck!
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i used the crying it out method with all my kids still not sure with a 5 1/2 month old will do for crying it out at night but it all work out well for my 3 of 4 kids my 5 year old didn't take so well to the crying it out method but i still let her cry it out but she got used that mommy is right in the other room listen for her still i thought that she was manipulating me to come in a sooth her but soon enough she got used to me not being in the room and only cried for 5 minutes then was out like a light.
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Posted: 08-27-2009, 01:27 PM
Post Subject: can not get 11 month old to take naps!!
I have the same problem - thought it was only me. : ( My daughter is almost 11 months as well - I am a working mother and my mother and mother-in-law watch her BUT they had held her for 10 months durning naps and now have decided that they are not getting anything done. She does the same thing for them - as soon as you try and move she wakes up - but you know she isn't sleeping sound when you hold her because she thrashes around. And when I breastfeed her at night if I lay her down too soon she wakes up and wants to nurse until she falls asleep again and then it is usually 10 or after before I get a break. I am exhausted!
Another problem we have is - my mom trys the CIO method but the other grandma won't so it defeats the purpose!!! I have tried it on the weekends when we are at home and I never knew a kid could cry so long. She has gone as long as 2 hours and she won't go to sleep. How long is long enough before you finally throw in the towel?? I hear people say - oh my baby only cried for 15 mins - I WISH. 2 hours is a long time to listen to anyone scream. : (
I am about ready to scream myself. I am getting ready to send her to a babysitter to introduce to her to other kids but am afraid she will tell me to forget it because of her lack of nap know how!!
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Posted: 08-29-2009, 09:02 PM
Lizabeth32 - You are right about the grandmas. The routine has to be consistent or it wont work. That is probably why she cries for so long because she figures SOMEONE will come get her. You can try Elizabeth Pantleys No Cry Sleep Solution. Google it and you will get some more info. I am not that familiar with it but other moms say it works and apparently she gives tips for those babies who need to suck to sleep.
And a good sitter will take her anyway and try to help you. If the sitter says no than I wouldnt trust her. How could you trust her if another issue comes up later? How do you know she wont just say sorry I cant watch her anymore?
CIO doesnt work for all, but there are other options. Good luck guys!
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Posted: 09-02-2009, 04:24 PM
I know it's a little late in the game, but the Babywise system worked wonders for me!!
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Posted: 11-03-2009, 02:40 PM
Naomik- I have a daycare myself...I am having the exact same problem with a ten month old that I watch. Mom and Grandma have always held him for naps. Yes, I took him...yes, I am trying to help with the nap thing for their sake and mine. BUT, to call someone who will not take a baby that doesn't nap not trustworthy...that is just plain SILLY.
Alot of times "sitters" have more than just your child...there are the other children to think about. I'm sure the parents of the other kids wouldn't be too happy if their kid didn't get a nap, because of a screaming baby that won't go to sleep.
You have to think of the provider's sanity too. If you were in the provider/sitter's shoes would you want a baby that won't nap????
Trust has NOTHING to do with it!
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