me and me husband have been trying to have a baby for a year and i half now and nothing seems to be working. i dont know what we are doing wrong. i am so depressed because i want to have one so bad that its causing me to jump done his throat all the time and now we fight all the time. any advice?
I know this is going to sound a bit on the crazy side, but maybe you should stop trying. If you are fighting with your hubs all the time over not getting pregnant yet then take a step back. Both of you, take a step back and try to relax. I know that is really hard (in fact I am trying to take my own advice right now) but it will help with your relationship. A lot of people put such an importance on having a child that you feel like a failure when it doesn't happen right away. You are not a failure and anybody who makes you feel that way is wrong. I guess what I am trying to say is that you should try to take some of the pressure off of yourself and just enjoy life. I know it seems cliche but it will happen when you least expect it if you just go about your life. Good luck as I know this is difficult.
I totally agree with hardworkin'. Also, maybe you should join our trying to conceive forum. I know it helps me a lot and the other ladies seem to like it just as well. It's a place you can share everything about TTC. That way when you want to yell at your husband you can just get on here and rant and rave to us! Haha
Happily Married on 02-14-2009
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Well, if you can accept a suggestion from a guy ...
I might suggest you abstain from sex until the one day that it really matters, and tell your husband to keep his hands out of his pants the whole time too. Like the rhythm method in reverse.
Of course you both might want to check with a doctor to make sure it's possible and ask advice assuming it is. While I'm sure it would be really sad to find out if one of you can't at least it might help with the frustration of trying, and there might be some options you can consider to have a child together albeit with possible medical intervention.
I agree also maybe you should stop trying so hard. The stress and depression aren't helping the situation.
I do not think that you are doing anything "wrong". That is putting a lot of pressure on yourself. Sometimes it just is not easy for people. You may want to check with a doctor to see if there are some medical issues that are getting in the way. Good luck
Don't worry, trying for so long without any result doesn't mean at all that you have a problem. It could be (like in my case) that we were trying in the wrong time, thinking it was the right one. What helped me was the www.ovuline.com tool. When I started using it I realized how mistaken I was about the "most fertile days". So, long story short, we started using this free tool and having sex in the days it suggested and very soon we had some positive news
I hope it helps you as well!