I had a miscarriage 6 months ago at 16 weeks. My husband and I were so happy looking forward to having our first child together. I have a year and 7 month old daughter from my ex. We were planning so much about how she could have a little brother or sister to play with since it's always pretty much the 3 of us and sometimes the 4 of us when my mother comes to visit. We don't know many couples with young children.
Out of the nowhere I started getting pains and could hardly stand up, but when I went to the hospital my doc told me I was okay and I needed some bed rest and gave me some pills to ease the contractions. About 2 days I got such bad pains I couldn't eat, I went to the bathroom where my water broke... My husband rushed me to the hospital. I asked to go to the bathroom right when I got in and while in the bathroom the baby just came out. I'll never forget seeing the little angel in a way a mother should never see her child.
The most heartbreaking part of all is the day before I lost my baby I was sitting on the bed with my daughter and she kept hugging my belly. once she would sit up again I'd read a little more and she would come back and hug the belly and didn't let go. After a few weeks I thought back on that I think she saying goodbye to her little brother or sister as if she knew.
To skip past all the pain and depression which doesn't go away... my husband and I have been trying for 2 months now. My back specialist ordered a pregnancy test to make sure he can start therapy for my back... I was so excited to take the test... I said to myself "I have to be pregnant, we've been trying" and to my disappointment it was negative. I have a sinking feeling I might never have another child. I just hope I'm wrong. My heart goes out to everyone who has ever lost a child.
Sweetie, you'll have another. don't loose faith. i had preterm labor at 22 weeks, the babies (twin boys) died shortly after birth. i had another boy 14 months and 1 week later. i thought i would never get pregnant again either. the best advice i can give is to relax and forget about getting pregnant. just enjoy life and it may happen. just don't give up. and as for the pain of the loss it dulls over time. mine was almost 10 years ago (oct 12, 1999) i still have things that upset me but not as often as before. hang in there.
I've been through a miscarriage and yes it's not easy but you can get pregnant agian. My mom actually had a similar circumstance. She didn't know she was pregnant between me and my older sister. She found out when she went to the bathroom and the baby fell out. She had been having bad back pain but she had also just helped a friend move so she put it down to some pulled muscles. For a while after she was really depressed but she had to keep it together for my older siblings. I don't know how much time went by before she got pregnant with me but she wasn't trying and it just happened. So just relax and go with the flow. It'll happen when it decides to happen.