Need some discipline help

[may2mac]

So my 4 year old has started telling us "No" all the time. Like when I ask her to put her shoes away she will tell me no. Right now I just tell her "You are not allowed to speak to me that way", but it isn't effective and she continues to do it.

Does anyone have any suggestions as to how to discipline or reprimand her for telling me no? I just don't want it getting worse and leading to even worse backtalk.

[NaomiK]

How have you disciplined her in the past? That kind of back talk is def unacceptable. You can use time out or take something away for a day.

[freckles]

When she wants something, tell her "No." Taste of her own medicine. She will learn to appreciate things. Does it sound mean?

[lismom2]

My dd was doing this for a brief period. It wasn't that she was meaning 'no' exactly, but more like she was getting used to the power of that word. Instead of telling her to put her shoes up, try rephrasing the question like 'would you like to put you shoes up in this closet or that cubby (etc)'. This way she gets to explore her language AND critical thinking without challenging your authority . My daughter's big 'no' is when I try to put her hair in pony tails. If you ask, she says 'NO!!' and runs off screaming. But if you say 'Would you like 1 pony tail or 2' she answers whichever she wants and sits while you do her hair. Hope this helps

[moonemaiden]

I agree with lismom, we had to do the same thing with my daughter. Rather then give her a chance to say no, give her the option to say something else. "Would you like to wear the pink dress or the blue jeans today?" It also helps teach her the decision making process (which really helps later on, no waiting 20 minutes for them to make a decision). Good luck!