sister in law is OBSESSED WITH MY CHILD

[Um_Tarek]

I know this was posted a couple of years ago but it sounds like I wrote it, lol! And I know what you are or were going through. I saw your subsequent post about your SIL wanting to borrow your child as well, same here. My husband and I have confronted our SIL and MIL about all the issues that have been snowballing for three and a half years now, I was just wondering how things have worked out for you. We haven't spoken to the in-laws since Christmas. It makes me partly sad but also relieved, however I do not think that it is a solution. It's a mess. They say we are selfish and possessive, I feel that they are overbearing and inappropriate and above all, my SIL and MIL act as if my child was their own.

[Mrs-C]

Thank you for posting this...I'm with Um_Tarek, I know this is a couple of years old, but I'm in the same situation. I'm curious to know if you ever found any resolution to the problem.

My situation goes like this...DH comes from a family of 5 kids one girl (my SIL) who is the oldest and four boys. Our DS is the only grandson and none of his other siblings are even close to having children. My SIL is in her early 40's with no relationship and I don't expect that there will ever be one because she sabotages them by being wacko...within one date a guy is her "boyfriend"...and that sort of thing. Now her attention has move on to my DS. Case in point she has literally texted/emailed me every day for the past week requesting photos and videos or asking for him to sleep over the next time we visit. She never asks how I am or even says hello. So far my response has been to send her a photo, but now I'm getting weary of it all. I have stopped responding immediately or have responded with things like, "We're busy at the moment. Maybe later," or "He's a little crabby right now bc he went to the doctor today." (which was true) When I have sent photos she will say things like, "Send me another one...he doesn't look happy in that one." It's infuriating because it seems like she wants him to be a "show pony."

Don't even get me started on the outrageous gifts. I don't want to raise a spoiled child.

My only saving grace is that she lives out of town...so I can limit the exposure. I've talked to my DH and he agrees that she's over the top, but we just don't know how to address it without creating WW3.

[LucillesMama]

If I were in this situation, I'd put an end to it ASAP. It's never too late to speak up!
kayla is YOUR daughter, not hers. as much as you like your sister-in-law obviously loving your child and wanting to be a part of her life, she seems to be taking it to the extreme. in fact, most of her behaviour is borderline CREEPY. What I read is really unsettling! =/
....I recently had a big falling out with my own family, and barred them from seeing my daughter for months until they listened to me and acted appropriately. it actually worked, we're now closer than ever, and they've backed off quite a bit lol

YOU'RE the mom, not her. when it comes to your child YOU know what's best, and you ought to turn into mama bear with that role.

[stepmom1]

That would be very irritating to have a sister in law like that. I can not imagine. Does she have kids of her own? Or do you think that she is just jealous?