Best way to deliver another baby news...

[svonflue2006]

I am just wondering what is the etiquette for delivering news about another baby... I am pregnant with my second child...eventually I will have tell my baby sitter, who is also trying to conceive (for the last couple of years but hasn't been lucky), that I am pregnant... It is very hard for me to find someone to watch my boys, but eventually she will find out. I want to be tactful and not hurt her feelings. My sitter was a God-send to me when I had to go back to work. Any advice?

[hardworkinmama]

I would wait until you start showing and then mention it. Also, you need to tell her if you are wanting her to watch both children. You need to make sure she is able to take on another child. If she is not then you need to start looking for other arrangements, even if that means sending your children to different caregivers.
As far as etiquette is concerned, I don't think there is any. It's not your fault that she is having trouble getting pregnant and most likely she is going to be happy for you.

[svonflue2006]

Thank you...Now another question... How do you tell someone who is against it entirely...They are my best friend, co-worker, and mentor. I am very happy about it, but I feel like I am disappointing her and soon enough she will know...especially since we always have coffee together...I am going to have to order decaf and I am sure she will pick up on that!

[Airforce020106@yahoo.com]

I would say take your baby sitter out to lunch one day and talk to her about it and see what she says.

With the best friend issue if she is truely your best friend she will be excited and happy for you no matter what her real veiws are on it. She should be supportive and keep any negative comments to herself. If she can't do that then she must not be a very good friend.

Thats just my opinion about it. Also the sooner you tell both people the better. This way its out in the open and you don't need to hide or feel guilty about it. Plus it could stress you out and that's the last thing you need. Good luck! I hope it goes well.

[APEMBERTON]

I agree..just be upfront with the babysitter! Like hardworkinmama said it isn't your fault she can't conceive..but it is very nice of you to consider her feelings. I just wouldn't talk about it alot around her!!

As for your friend, if she truly is a friend she should be happy for you! It really isn't her decision & it is already too late anyway, so I would just tell her & get it over with!

Oh & Congrats!!!