5 year old bed wetting!!! is this normal

[mommy of 4 kids]

my 5 year old is bed wetting is this consider normal for a 5 year old to be bed wetting i took her to the doctor's back when she was 4 about this problem and the doctor said take her to see a urologist and i did take her to see a urologist and of course she doesn't like pain one bit so then they wanted a urine sample and i said "where's the cup" (she has been to the doctor for a UTI and she knows what the cup is for) and the doctor said "no cup" she looked at me scared to death and i could tell where this was going then he took out a long cord and a urine bag at the end and he said open her legs and she wasn't doing that the doctor called in more people to hold her down and then they stuck in the catheter and she did not cry but she screamed bloody murder cause she was in so much pain and now she's scared to go back to her regular doctor and he's a really nice guy and he knows that she's scared of being hurt. Have any ideas to tell me cause i know it's not a UTI she would tell me and it's not stress as well i keep putting her in to pull-ups for the night but night only she's fine in the day but at night it all goes down hill does any one think it's from the last visit to the urologist cause she hasn't been back since but she wets like 2 to 3 times a night at different times in the night like it could 1 in the morning, the next night it could be 4 in the morning but she does go to the bathroom before bed i've tried waking her up in the night to go but that didn't go so well she hated that and my last resort is medication should i try the bed wetting alarm but i'm afraid it will scare her. Have any ideas i really need them please help me

[Bec caV]

Why would there be medication involved for bedwetting? That seems odd if there's no infection or anything....

The best advice I can give, because the main cause for bed wetting is the child sleeps so soundly they don't wake up when they have to go, is to cut out all fluids about 2 hours before bed. If she isn't full of liquid, the accidents should at least decrease. Make sure she pees before putting her to bed (or at least close to time to put her to bed).
Eventually, she'll either learn to wake up when she has to go or her bladder will get strong enough to hold it until morning (so long as her bladder is not OMG full)

[H.Starr]

They make those things that are like underwear/pull ups for bigger kids...called Overnighters or something along those lines.
I know that doesn't solve your problem, but wearing those at night could help from having to clean up a mess every morning.
The commercial says they're designed to look and feel like real underwear, so that way if she went to a sleepover or something, no one would even notice.

[moonemaiden]

That's a very drastic reaction to a very normal situation. My daughter is 7 and still wets the bed at night. Her doctor and all the docs in her pediatric office tell me it's normal and can very well last until she's 13, and that would still be normal. All the research I've done verifies that. It's a very common problem and is more of an inconvenience for the parents. We use the NightJammers for older kids and it works great.

Did her pediatrician find anything medically wrong with her? Did the urologist find anything medically wrong? If not, I wouldn't worry about it. I would suggest discussing the incident at the urologist's with her pediatrician though, that can have some long lasting damage (fear and mistrust of doctors, etc.) And talk to your daughter about the incident as well, explain to her that not all doctors are that way (forceful) and remind her of the times she visited her pediatrician before that incident.

I hope this helps.

[WetStop3]

Hi. A bedwetting alarm is simply a mind/body behavior modification device for a drug-free treatment which helps condition the user to better sleep arousal at the onset of a full bladder. Yes, there are medications that help reduce wetting overnight, but as with most medications, it "masks" the problem and does not correct it. Also there can be side effects. My own children had issues and due to their success with alarms, (6 wks for first child, 8 weeks for second), I decided to raise awareness of these alarms and their usefullness. They "empower" a child to take control! If your daughter may be frightened by the noise, demonstrate on a wetting doll first, and make the doll go through the routine of treatment. Less threatening that way, and perhaps she'll find it fun, and see the device as a "helper" tool. Learn more at www.WetStopAlarm.com. Alarms are typically beneficial to users 6 and older, however, if her daytime bladder control is superb, she may be a candidate to start a treatment program at home. If she is resistant or frightened, put it away, and re-introduce it in a few months. Less pressure, and she'll already know what to expect.

[mommy of 4 kids]

yes it's really hard for us for her parents to see her go thru this but it's harder for her she thinks she's the only one who does it i try to tell her that she's not the only one who still wets the bed at night. And i do use the under-jams but she's so small for those that she uses other kind they look like under-wear but she likes those's and she does just fine with them it rare if they leak and then she wakes up screaming cause she's wet and i don't believe making a child who wets the bed sleep in wet sheets for the rest of the night and wait till morning i just wash her sheets and he PJ's together and then once the sheets are dry put them back onto her bed and put her into new PJ's and she's back to sleep but i do make sure that she pees before bed and even my oldest who is 8 once in while wets his bed and i do the same thing wash the wet sheets and put him in to new PJ's my 3 year old i'm not sure yet but i'm sure he will wet the bed like his older sister and older brother as well but his almost potty trained. and when i did take her to see the urologist and her pediatrician didn't find anything wrong with her the urologist and her pediatrician both said "could it be stress?" i said "no, if any one was stressed in my house they will tell me" my house is mostly stress free if it's not then my house hold just falls apart and then i have my 8 year yelling and my 5 year old screaming cause the 8 year old hit her or what ever he did to her and me carrying a crying 3 year old and a fussy 5 1/2 who's teething and is going to mommy a head ache i have no clue what to do? i need help really do i need help

[WetStop3]

YOu can reduce stress overnight buy purchasing two bed pads. They are water proof, so just a quick replacement with a dry one while you toss the other in the washing machine is all you need to get you child back to bed quicker without having to strip entire bed. Pads can be found at Babies R Us or most places that sell diapers. See description here: http://mattresszine.com/mattress-new...s-overlay-pad/

[mommy of 4 kids]

thanks wetstop3 i never thought of that before just have new sheets to put on my 5 year old bed i could use her toddler sheets from when she was in a toddler bed but every time my child has a birthday or something more they all love it they get to go out with me only when my hubby or baby sitter is able to watch them no one but that one child who had that birthday or that move to a big kid bed is able to go with me and they get new sheets and pillows cases and blankes as well and then all love it my 5 year old when she turned 2 that was when we bought her her own toddler bed but still kept her crib in her room so we weaned her from her own crib she went out with just me and she choose out pink sheets and every thing and i mean every thing had to be pink for out only little girl at that time. But thank you for all your help but really there is no stress unless my 5 year old makes it stressful. but thank you wetstop3 for your help i'll use it wisely i'll keep you all posted and see if any of this stuff works or at least helps me

[brandie1127]

OMG! OMG! OMG! They gave your 5 year old a cathedar!!! I had a cathedar at 13 and to this day I am scared to death of urologists! When I had ava they kept talking about a cathedar, I kept saying NO CATHEDAR until I realized they were talking about the epidural! That poor baby! You poor mother! I would have lost it! OK that being said!

My sister wet the bed until 6 and a half. She was just a very very deep sleeper, my stepmother was enabling the problem by putting her in goodnights, (which of course I understand because theres enough laundry to do without doing sheets everyday too) but this is what they think helped her quit ....

One day my grandmother had a talk with her about how she was putting her to bed in panties not diapers because she isn't a baby, that she is a big girl and she needs to get up in the middle of the night when she has to go to the bathroom. Did she think she could do that? My sister said yes .... and that was it ... I swear she never wet the bed again!


Good luck more than likely it will just end - as fast as it started. They tried everything they even went through a spanking stage where if she wet the bed they would spank her - even that didn't work! ( so I don't recommend it)

[mommy of 4 kids]

yes they did a cathedar to my 4 year old she was 4 when i took her but BEC915 she won't even see her doctor she's so scared of her real doctor that i haven't took her back since and i take my kids to a well-check-up every year but my 5 year old hasn't been back to the doctors since that ever happen but no UIT she would tell and her baldder habits are normal but can anyone help me i thing she's doing either out of fear or perpose but if it is on perpose then what can i do to help her know that it's not ok to wet the bed out of stress or anger or frustrasion but if it's not then help me i don't want to do any kind of medcasions or a wetness alarm cause i think she'll be scared of the alarm making strage noises and then she's scream and just wet the bed after that. but if it's out of fear the can you give me some advice about talking to her about her fear and would that helped if i talked to her about her fear if that's the cause if her bed wetting. i'll kepp you posted about this