Also, just FYI... it only took me one month of being off of BC to get pregnant so do not live by the 6 month rule. I also agree that it is important to think about waiting as a potential option for baby. I also have a dog, which worked as a preventative for a while
I just can't imagine a child of 17 trying to conceive. I first found out I was pregnant when I was 18 and had her at 19. I had just graduated high school and was no where near ready to have a baby. The father wanted nothing to do with us and she still doesn't know who he is. I am now almost 25 and have a son too. I am with the father and we are engaged. He loves my kids and is the greatest father. I only speak from experience when I tell you that it is not the answer to go and get pregnant right now, to tell you the truth no one is ever truly ready for a child. They change your whole world! I wouldn't change the fact that I have my kids by any means, but I just wish i had waited, even having a child at 23 wasn't easy. I am a full-time student and trying to make it through school right now and it is the most trying time in my life! I wish I had gone from high school to college, settled down with someone, got married, bought a house, and then deceided to have my children. It makes me sad that you feel like you need to have a child right now! You have all the time in the world hun, please wait!!
Parenting isn't a hobby. 'Nuff said.
I just want to know how a 17 year old can be financially responsible for a baby. My husband and I are 30 and our son is 2 1/2. We struggle to make it. Accidents are one thing but to plan a baby when you aren't even legal to vote yet is a bit much. My husband and I take pride in the fact that we do it on our own without help from the state. It seems more common these days that these young girls think it's ok to pop out a kid because they want to play dress up with them and someone else is going to pay for it. It's not ok. Just thinking about it gets me worked up. There's a lot of welfare moms where I live and some of them started at 14. These kids don't have a clue about responsibility.
wow. not to be rude but she asked for answers. not a bunch of people tellin her what to do like they're her mom. im 17 and me & my boyfriend are wantin to have a baby. its her life & if thats what she wants then let her do it... Dont let anyone try to talk u out of what u want sweetie.
Jayci~ Spoken by a true teenager, who has little sense of reality at this point. Unfortunately life isn't always about what you want...it is about responsibility, work, bills....and parenthood has nothing to do with what you want, but what your child needs.
I know all the experienced moms out there know what it's like to work full time, keep house, prepare meals, balance a budget, take care of a baby that seems to be crying for no reason, and try to get yourself in bed at a decent time. That includes all stay at home moms. Motherhood isn't easy and wasn't meant to be. I couldn't even begin to count all the times I've had to turn down friends that want to go shop or go out to eat because I either didn't have the extra money or someone available to watch my son for a couple of hours. By the way, babysitters aren't free either. I try not to rely on my parents or in-laws to watch my son too much because they already raised their kids. Have you put much thought into how much daycare costs? Are you going to breast feed? Formula is extremely expensive. And a box of pampers will cost you about $19 and only last about a week. A minimum wage job doesn't even begin to cover all of those expenses. What if your baby needs to go to the doctor or needs medicine? Those bills add up quick. Walgreens doesn't just hand out meds because they feel sorry for you. A child deserves to be brought into this world to two loving parents whom are preferrably married and have a plan. If you can't make a marriage work why bring a kid into it? No offense to those that aren't married, that's just how things were put into perspective for me when I was younger and it just stuck with me.
At 17 you should be living like a teenager while you can. Once those days are gone you will miss them. Trust me. Life was much easier back then.
Mable - I'm with you 100%.
Kids these days make me sick to my stomach. I don't care how much they all ruin their own lives, that's their choice. But to bring another human into this world and inevitably ruin their life too? Not right at all, not even a little bit. Those babies don't have a choice in anything. They're at the mercy of their selfish "parents."
TEENAGER. Means STILL A CHILD. Means SHOULD NOT BE A PARENT.
Its frustrating enough when kids have "accidents," but to do it on purpose?!
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I went to HS with alot of girls getting pregnant and having babies planned or not. I started haveing sex when I was fairly young and of course I wanted a baby. But I knew I had no way of supporting a kid. I would get my kid fix from baby sitting all the time. I have a friend now who had her first when she was 17 by one guy, then her 2nd by her on and off bf still, then cheated on him got pregnant again gave that one up for adoption, and now she is pregnant with her 4th by the 2nd guy. And to think she is only 22 like me. She has 2 jobs and parties all the time. Though she loves her kids and goes out a lot she struggles a lot. In High School she had to drop out and get a job. Her dad would have to take care of her kids for her. Do you really want that like? She is 22 and has a 5 year girl whos father is in jail again, a 3 year old daughter I think and her other daughter is with her uncle and she is 14weeks pregnant working at a grocery store and an auto parts store just to make it. That is no life for anyone. But if you think you can handle a baby, school, work and bills then go for it.
im 17 i really want a baby as well but dont we all want one at this age. me n my fiancee really want a child but we can see that we are not finatially ready at all and thats why we are going to wait and let me tell you i know its hard i work in a nursary and it even anoys me when a child has a potty training accident when they know where the toilet is! and babbies when they girl but they cant tell you whats wrong with them i know the first step and the first word must be wonderfull for all you mums but if u wanna know what its going to be like work in a day care center for a week or to ull understand how hard its going to be just by working with the children from 9 till 5 mon - fri. and dont u all just wanna bring a baby into a nice carm secur home thats acctually yours.
just want u girls to think about what your going to do with you lives a year or two down the road when u want a career as well wouldnt u want to have everything done n ready for you to say yes i can plan now i have a job im gonna be hear for a while now and if they sack me i have a good enough degree or w.e to say u can get another job.
just think about it.
im going to wait untill ive finished all my schooling and bring my baby into a life it diserves =]