A lil depressed and hoping for support

[moonemaiden]

You look great! I was that big around 4 months with my son. I gained nearly 50 lbs with my daughter and never showed a little until 8 months. She was 7lbs 8.5 ounces and 21 inches tall. I only gained 35 lbs with my son, and showed by the end of my first trimester. He was 7 lbs 9 ounces 20.5 inches long. Weight gain and belly bump can be very deceiving. I had been told that neither of my babies would weigh more than 5 pounds.

I agree with Mamadecuatro about setting up some guidelines. I was having heavy contractions for weeks before they decided to give me cervidil to help dilate. I was pushing for over 5 hours, after spending 36 hours with contractions less than 2 minutes apart lasting nearly as long. It should have become a c-section long before that point, but I had never discussed specific guidelines with my doctor. I just told her I didn't want an epi and left it at that.

I wish you the best, you're so close to the end, just try to stay positive.

[caressatiger]

thanks moon for response...didnt want you to think i hadnt read it yet. I sure am gonna talk to doc on tues ill keep yall posted. maybe if i do get admitted to hospital i can access site on my phone...and update

[bluegrassmom]

My doctor told me about 2 weeks before my due date that my daughter was over 8 pounds for sure. They had to induce me at 2 weeks past my due date and I was terrified because I was sure my daughter was going to be a 10 pound baby. She was 6 pounds 14 ounces when born. I asked the doctor about how accurate his estimation of her prebirth weight was and he admitted that doctors are completely guessing because there really isn't a way for them to tell for sure. And a few pounds one way or another really makes a difference so I don't think they should be doing that! So if I were you, I wouldn't pay much attention to what the doctor says about your baby's weight before she's born. He doesn't have a clue!

[ozymomdius]

Just to let you know, the American College of Obstretics and Gynecologists says that C-sections aren't necessary with non-diabetic moms for up to an 11lb baby. (http://www.aafp.org/afp/20010701/practice.html) Of course, it is up to you and your doctor to make the best decision, but it can be done! My BIL was 10.5 lbs, born vaginally. Do what you are comfortable with, but realize that you are perfectly within the bounds of normal vaginal birth if you choose to wait up until 41-42 weeks to induce or attempt a C-section.
Here are a couple more links:
http://www.unnecesarean.com/avoid-an-unnecesarean/
http://www.unnecesarean.com/birth-stories/
Please DON'T read anything on this website that causes you to freak out or get nervous... there is a lot of stuff to encourage big-baby moms to be able to give birth vaginally if they want to, but they also can get pretty worked up with news and other links about unnecessary C-sections and bad doctors, and so there will be a lot of information that you won't want to read until after you have that baby safely in your arms. If you do need to have a C-section and want to try to avoid one for your next baby, check them out as well -- they are a great source for VBAC information.

And I promise I'm not affiliated with them at all, just another mom-to-be concerned about not having a C-section myself. Good luck!!

PS -- just to clarify, this isn't meant to judge any mom who has had a c-section.. my mom had three herself and I know that sometimes they are very much needed and a good thing!

[gublerkitty]

All I can really tell you is that if you are prone to panic attacks you might want to be completely under if you have to go with a C-Section. Secondly, your Dr. sounds a little impatient. Women have been giving birth since the dawn of time and yes, we now have tons of technology to ease everything but seriously, how do you think all of our ancestors got here?? Did their Dr. tell them, " Well, you are not allowed to go over your due date " ?? NO!! Sometimes your baby just is not ready to enter the world quite when he/she is expected. They want to surprise you!! Having fear is normal. Very normal. I was not even aware there was even a remote possibility I would have to have a C-Section with my daughter until a few hours before the surgery. At least you have had some time to think about it!! I think you will be just fine if you just try and relax as much as possible. This is a critical time!! That baby will get here the best way for the both of you and who cares if he/she takes a few days longer than expected?? Would you rather her get here safely?? Good luck to you!

[Toyin]

I feel so depressed that i had two csections. I can,t help feeling so unhappy daily. I love kids but i feel so terrible that i will be limited to a certain number. I feel sad trying to get pregnant again cause i know what am going to pass through again. I wish it is possible to have a virginal delivery after two c/sections.

[valeriezacutie]

I hope everything went well-guessing she was delivered by now. Just want to say that doctors & ultrasounds can be extremely inaccurate on guessing baby weights-by almost 2lbs I read. Also with my first pregnancy my son was estimated to be small about 6lbs & he was born a very healthy 7lbs 12oz.

[babiesrgifts]

Wow, my kids have all been pretty big and I was never expected to have a c-section because of size, heck I didn't even have an epidural... 1st: 9.5lbs, 2nd: 9.5 lbs, 3rd: 11lb 10oz.... all vaginal. The last birth wasn't that much different than the first two (and I didn't have GD with any of them either).

[ladydelina]

Okay a few things.

Full Term (meaning you can have the baby without any health concerns for the baby) is from 36 weeks to 42 weeks. You can give birth at any time during those weeks and be completely normal. I don't understand why your doctor said to stay off your feet at 37 weeks but is worried about your dialation at 39 weeks. I also don't understand why he's so gung ho about a c-section at 40 weeks.

First time moms don't really efface well until just before labor. Again unsure why the doc is so worried.

An ultrasound will give a very accurate size of your daughter's head if you are really worried. My first son was 42 cm head and my second was a 40 cm. I delivered the first vaginally but experience so many recovery problems (mostly completely lack of sexual sensation and complete urinary incontinence, also dealing with 14 stiches and a forceps baby) that I opted for a c-section with my second. With my second they had his head size accurate to 2 cm.

To a mom that said she was depressed because she couldn't have another after two c-sections. I've asked that question of 3 docs and they all said that you can do a v-birth after multiple c's and that you can have more than 2 c's.

The heartburn was a good sign that you were getting ready! Your body relaxes everything to get ready to push that baby out. But it relaxes everything and that includes the part that keeps stomach acid in.

Big babies are normal, small babies are normal, delivering at 38 weeks is normal, delivering at 42 weeks is normal. Gaining 10 pounds is normal, gaining 50 pounds is normal.

I can see that you've probably delivered by now. So I can honestly say that if you decide on a second child I would go with a different practice. You have to feel confident and relaxed with your ob-gyn, I don't get that you did with this one. Never feel scared to change doctors no matter how far along you are. Good luck!

[ckdoty]

It may seem like a scary thing, but trust me at least you have some warning. I was induced 2x. The second time worked, but my daughters heart rate dropped way to low with each contraction, so we had an emergency c-section. I have had no problems with scar tissue (I've even had a gastric bypass w/out complication) and to be honest I was ready to go back to work within just 3 - 4 weeks (doc wouldn't let me, but I was ready). I'm a single mom so I didn't have a choice.
I think the best part was not much in the way of bleeding afterwards. They pretty much cleaned everything out so I was able to use a panyliner - which with a belly full of staples was great.
Now that I'm pregnant with my second child - while a vbac (vaginal birth after c-section) is possible and there is only a 0.5% risk of problems - I'm with my doctor on the fact that why take that chance. And this time I get to pick the birthday! Also it has been 13 yrs since my last one - the easiest way is definitely gonna be my pick.
If you have any questions feel free to write back. As long as you don't lay around expecting to be waited on you'll bounce back in no time.