Why TEEN mothers are BETTER mothers...

[JMJ10]

I did think that was kind of weird when I read it.

[lou]

I can see that from your attempt to rationalize your life choices that you yourself have doubts about your abilities as a child to raise a child.

I have a teenage sister with a 5 month old who was in the hospital just last week. she had left her son in a 90 degree room in his crib with a blanket and snuggly and crying. she left him for my mother to babysit. when my mother heard he had stopped crying she went to check on him and the blanket was over his head and he was suffocating. now thank god my mother who's a nurse was there or he'd be one dead baby as my sister wouldn't have checked on him when he stopped crying. she would have been on the phone or outside smoking while her baby was dying.

my point is that my sister as a teen is too egotistical, selfish, self absorbed, irresponsible, and immature, to raise a child. she's supposed to be though, she is a child as are other teens. she said to my brother jsut the other day how easy it is to be a mom. well of course it's easy for her, our mother pays all the bills, buys all the supplies, runs him to dr's appointments, she get wic and medicaid for her son etc.....
so to appropriately respond to your post, no you are not better jsut because you get a few extra years and even that is not a guarantee sweetheart.

my sister as with other teens on here get annoyed by people treating her as a child, well she is a child and so are all the other teen mothers out there. having a baby doesn't make you an adult.
and I'm not trying to offend anyone here, jen you specifically. from your posts I gather you're pretty responible. I'm not saying teens absolutely can't be good mothers, I'm jsut saying in general they usually aren't and my sister is a case in point. even with all the help and advice she recieves she not up to par, far from it as she won't take any advice.

[lou]

I really didn't take this thread seriously. it reeks of BS. however my previous response was more of a vent about my sister than anything. sorry about ranting but that whole situation just pisses me off and my nephew will be and has already suffered as a result.

[Bec caV]

BeccaV did you know your son was born 11 days before my girls. How are you going to handle his birthday with it being so close to Christmas?

We're still trying to figure out what to do about his birthday, JMJ

My mother's birthday is December 26th, so I grew up with the sense of making birthdays near holidays special and separate (and my husband's is a month after Christmas so he often got cheated as well).

My husband wants to do a birthday in June for him, have just family for his actual birthday and do a big party in June, but for me that wouldn't feel like a birthday

As of right now, I'm just going to make a big deal out of his birthday and a big deal out of Christmas as two different things. I'm also not going to expect when we have birthday parties for people to get him stuff. Maybe just a little gift (or little gift card) and the same for Christmas... but we had already decided not to overdo presents for Christmas anyhow, Christmas is not about getting stuff.

[JMJ10]

That is very sad Lou. I hope she grows up enough soon to keep that baby safe.

[nkrumpfer]

Completely disagree. Everyone is a different parent and has their own reasons for being a great one. I am a stay at home mom so I spend all day with my child and have the time to do things other parents don't. Everyday I do something with my daughter, I take her to museums and zoos etc. A down day consists of park and a walk. I consider myself to be a great parent because I do everything I can to make sure my daughter gets to see and experience everything she can and in turn will grow to be a well rounded person.

However, My husband works all day. He is a great parent because he provides for his family so that our daughter can do all these things and he takes the time he has with her and makes it very special.

IT'S NOT THE AMOUNT OF TIME YOU SPEND WITH YOUR CHILD, IT'S THE QUALITY OF TIME SPENT.

[H.Starr]

I would love to know how old Roman is.

My baby boy is 10 months old today! Born August 29.
He shares a birthday with Michael Jackson and John McCain, haha.
An ear infection...what a way to celebrate your 10-month-bday, eh?

[H.Starr]

Oh poor little guy! I hope he gets better soon!

Thank you, me too!

[Kerisweetpea]

so all i could do was laugh at this thread! as yes im like disco i would LOVE to be there for my sons whole life but thats not life!!
and i really like how you guys turned this into just a chitchat thread! !!!

i hope roman gets better! i know how it is to have a sick little guy! im glad his fever is down and that they gave him antibiotics!
i remember Caleb's first ear infection, it was HELL!!! thank god he only had the one! hopefully he will get over it soon and that will be the only one he gets!
and Happy 10 month!!!

[H.Starr]

i hope roman gets better! i know how it is to have a sick little guy! im glad his fever is down and that they gave him antibiotics!
i remember Caleb's first ear infection, it was HELL!!! thank god he only had the one! hopefully he will get over it soon and that will be the only one he gets!
and Happy 10 month!!!

Thank you! I've been so proud that he's never been sick, not even a cold! I knew it had to happen sometime, but I was still wishfully hoping maybe he'd just never ever get sick ever. Haha.