I think that if you already told great-grandma-to-be that you would incorporate her name, YOU MUST (ESP. if she was so excited about it)! What better feeling could you possibly have, years down the road, than remembering that you honored her like that, and how proud she is/was.
What about Lillian Emily-Elizabeth __(last)__ ... you could call her "Lil Em" or Emily... like someone else posted, A LOT of people go by their middle name (s)... it's quite classy and kind of mysterious
I also like Lillie Elizabeth... or Lillie Beth? (Spelling can go ALL SORTS OF WAYS! LOL)
GOOD LUCK making the decision... let us know what you do in the end!!
I really think you need to use the name, as promised. It's pretty too, in my opinion.
Lauren Eileen ~ Wife to Adam, Mama to Anthony
I'm in a similar situation. My mom and my husband's mom's middles names are both Ann, so everyone assumes my baby girl's middle name is going to be Ann also. Well, I disagree. I wanted to give her the middle name of Marie (that's mine - maybe a little narcisistic (sp) but I like it). Oh - first name is Evelyn. Well, to settle, we combined, her name is going to be Evelyn Annemarie. Not necessarily the flow I wanted, but still pretty.
Also, my husband goes by his middle name. So does his brother, his best friend, and his dad. So it's more common than you think. I do think Lillian Emily Elizabeth is very cute. Or Emily Elizabeth Lillian sounds nice too. You don't have to use the second middle name. But at least you can tell grandma your daughter is still named after her.
Would Emily Lilly work?
I think if you said you would, you probably should. We used both living grandmother's middle names too. I like that it's honoring the strong women that we came from. However, I have to say- why are the grandmother's first names so horrible?! Mildred?! Really?! lol
Mom of twin girls, age 3, and a new baby boy born in January!
Tough situation! Can you possible compromise by just using the "L"?
Emily Lillian doesn't really seem to go together, but Emily Lilliana sounds good. Or maybe you could use a variation of Norma like Emily Nora. I think you should probably use the grandmother's name since you told her you were going to. There are a ton of different ways to spell both names so you could get creative.
I'm no stranger to the difficulties of picking out names for children. However, to honor a promise made will serve a greater good in both you and your daughter's lives than anything else. If you promised to incorporate her middle name in your daughter's name then I would try your best. I understand Emily is the name you have settled on right now, but perhaps, in the spirit of honor, you should try and look at other names that may flow with Lillian better or may incorporate a form of Lillian within them. You may discover a name that you like even better than Emily.
For example, when I was pregnant with my oldest we knew that if he was a boy his middle name would be James after my father-in-law, who is deceased. So we simply went through every name that flowed with James and after a long and arduous process we came up with Isaac James, which I love. My second son was the same thing, we decided his middle name would be Vincent after my father, and again after a long process we came up with Joshua Vincent. (Boys names are not easy for us).
My recommendation is even though you're in love with the name Emily, explore what else is out there. We had the name Bailey Katherine picked out for our first girl for nearly 6 years before she was born. Needless to say her name is Adeline Clare.
I think maybe you should go with either a variation of lillian, like lilliana as someone else said, or 2 middle names. I personally am considering giving my son 2 middles names because I just can't decide.
I'm just wondering why you made a promise like this in the first place? Did you know what her middle name was before you made the promise? If not why didn't you find out? You had to know somewhere deep down that if you made this promise then you would feel obligated to keep it. Both of my daughters are named after family members. (Our oldest is named after my grandma and my cousin and hubby's mom. Our youngest isn't "technically" named after anyone but we used the middle name of my m-i-l in her name) However, we didn't make a promise to anyone until we had settled on a name for certain.
Lillian is actually a diminutive of Elizabeth so strictly speaking you are honouring your promise if you go with emily elizabeth.