Here's a few ideas.
First.. "Emililian".. (Emma-lillian).
And you could nickname her Emily.. and call her Emily.
Emililian (maybe with different spelling) is kinda cool and unique and pretty and incorporates lillian into the name.
Second idea.. you could tell her that you guys decided to name her Emily Elizabeth but with your next girl you will name her after her.
Third ideayou could come up with a different first name that flows with Lillian better.
There are TONS of names out there!
Nymbler.com will help you find names that conform to the type of names you like (for exmaple short traditional, long unique, Jewish, African whatever. And if you like Emily you can enter that as a name you like and it will pull up similar names that are different that might flow with lillian better).
Fourth option.. you could opt out.. it's your baby and you should really name your baby a name you like and love and want. Giving your baby a lifelong name because you told her you would seems like a mistake.
Older people especially tend to be understanding.. I really think she will understand if you talk to her about it and explain it to her. (and tell her that you're going to keep looking at names to see if you can find one that flows better with Lillian that you love as much as Emily Elizabeth!).
Just tell her tha tyou've fallen in love with the name EE and she will understand. I'm sure she doesn't want you to name your daughter something you arne't in love with out of obligation either.
But then I realy would still try to find a new name or try to name the next girl after her.
Oh you could also tell her about that you love the EE name but are going to keep looking for Lillian names and gauge her reaction. See if she's understanding or really sad. Could always add it on as as econd middle name too.
What is her maiden name? Maybe you could use that?
oo oo Emlily!
(Em-lily)! (could use different spelling). It's pretty and flows!
Could still call her Emily if you wanna (nickname).
Just wanted to add a note from my personal experience: when I was born, my parents wanted to name me after a woman who was very important in my mother's life and who had recently passed away. To honor her, they gave me her name as my first name, but always called me by my middle name.
This woman had an amazing life and has been an inspiration to me even though we never met. Being her namesake meant that I learned more about her life and paid more attention to my Mom's stories about her even when I was a little girl...it kept her "alive" in our family memory in a special way. So I am grateful to be named for her.
However, having her name as my *first* name, instead of the name I have always gone by, has been a minor hassle throughout my life. Here are a few examples: When I start at a new school or job, I spend a good part of my orientation explaining what name I use and getting it changed in directories, on cards etc. In the computer age, I typically have to spend time changing whatever automatic email and account names assigned to me so that my business associates will recognize my messages. As a child, I was teased when my schoolmates found out my "real" name - and even today, hilarity ensues at work when people learn my "alias". I have to keep a running tally of which doctors, dentists etc. keep my given name or the name I use on file. Several times a week, I have this conversation on the phone: Me: "This is (middle name)." Caller: "Oh, I was trying to reach (first name)" Me "That's me, I just go by (middle name)". Caller "..." Me: "Really, it's me...what can I do for you?". When I got married, I thought that I could finally change my name to the name I use, I found out that the name change only applies to last and middle names - I would have to go through a good deal of paperwork to make the change.
None of these are big problems, of course, and none outweigh the honor of being named for such a wonderful person. But I would just encourage anyone planning to go the "middle as first" route to think through the many small inconveniences that your child will experience as a result.
I like Lillian Emily or Emily Lilly! I definitely think you should stick to your word! If you weren't prepared to keep your word you never should have said anything to the grandma! I don't mean that to sound cruel at all, I just think someones word is their word, and you have excited a family member by wanting to honor their name. It would be hurtful (even if she doesn't show it) to almost anyone to be told one thing, and then not see it through! You could also consider Emaline Lillian and calling her Emily. Or Lillian Elizabeth and calling her some form of Elizabeth. Just a few thoughts!
Its a pretty good idea for names. But to make everyone happy, I think its better to combine both grandparent's names.
Emily Lillian Elizabeth actually sounds very nice!