Dreading sex

[shanberry03]

I was dreading it too, until that third glass of wine. It helped alot!!

Lol!!!

I got on some kind of BCP after 6 weeks for breastfeeding moms. It made me want to do it all the time!!!!! I think it was estrogen only. You may want to ask for some of that

[StephanySampson]

LOL. I thought that more testosterone rather than estrogen increased libido levels though?

[nita212003]

I feel almost like you do but my husband isn't bugging me for sex. I used to want it all the time and was always ready but since i became a mom its completely different. We had isses while i was pregnant because i became completely dry and had a hard time with orgasms then he didn't want it when i became fully pregnant cause he felt different. Now i feel like i still may have the same issues and am afraid that it will change our relationship completely. Its a whole different ball game after having a child i never realized i wouldn't feel the same way about sex.

[boxingrobes]

This (responses in this thread) is why so many men dread having children.

Our sexy wives turn into full time mommies without one iota of care about pleasing their man.

Sad really. I feel sorry for your poor husbands.

[ra11en]

There are plenty of women that were itching to get back to their sex life with their man, even though hardly any posted on this specific thread. Chill. I was on another forum that posed an open question and the overwhelming majority of women barely made it the 6 weeks we're supposed to wait. I am guessing that those of us in that camp can't really relate to this poster so we didn't post, and/or didn't want to make the OP feel bad for nothing having a drive.

I do agree with one sentiment - just because we become a mommy doesn't mean we are no longer a woman and a wife/SO. But don't mistake it, I certainly wasn't calling my doctor at 4 weeks post partum asking if I could reconnect sexually with my husband if I was feeling up to it TO PLEASE HIM, I made that call because of ME and MY needs. No woman should be doing it to "please her man", this isn't the 50's anymore.

[dariacampbell]

My OB said to go slow and use lots of lube. That was the best advice ever. It'll get better over time. I promise.

[lilycheese]

My OB said to go slow and use lots of lube. That was the best advice ever. It'll get better over time. I promise.

Nice advice for sure.