I too think you are way too young and don't have a clue as to what you are getting into, but if you are bound and determined to do this then no drinking, no smoking, NO DRUGS, get REALLY serious about your diet, and be religious on both prenatal vitamins and prenatal care. My DW is a NICU nurse and sees way too many babies of teen mothers because they just haven't learned to take care of themselves yet, let alone a baby growing inside them.
So if you are serious about this, then get serious. And don't even THINK about neglecting your school work! For that you need to be redoubling your efforts. Your education in high school, and then beyond is what's going to provide for you and your baby. Do not lose site of that. My DW's father taught her to always make sure that she had a profession that would always allow her to be independent if that was required. Nursing is something you might really want to look into as the hours usually make a good fit with child rearing, and she can find a job anywhere and at any time.
You've chosen to become an adult, and now you have to act like a responsible one. It's not easy, and it's not anywhere near always fun...
As for names... I like Noah. Cute name for a boy!
Keep your head high tinymommy
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and keep us posted
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I'm beginning to realize why I feel ignored when I first start posting on other forums. This forum is proof that you're better off letting people establish themselves in the community before replying to threads like this and feeding into the drama. This poster is a TROLL. There's a possiblity that she didn't originally post trolling for drama but I'm pretty convinced that she came back only to stir it up again.
If tiny is real then I can't see how, even trying her hardest, she could raise this baby well with parents like that as roll models. Someone said this situation is not completely their fault, but it is since they are obviously encouraging some outrageous behavior. Hopefully her mom will step up and keep her from leaving (sounds like the parents aren't together, and maybe she doesn't know about this apartment thing yet). Anyway, it will only take one call to CPS to get her 13 year old toosh back home and the boyfriend in jail for statuatory rape. No way would whatever state she lives in let a baby live alone with a 13 year old! It's funny because my local newspaper just ran a poll on what age children should be able to stay at home alone, and the majority said 16! And that for only a few hours at a time . . .
There is zero way that CPS in any state will allow a 13-year-old minor child to live by herself in an apartment with no adult - let alone a 13-year-old minor AND a newborn. I don't care who's name is on the lease or how old they are. And if it was blessed and financed by the 13-year-old's parents, well, I'm fairly certain that the courts would have something to say about that - more than likely by removing any legal authority the parents have over either of those minor children. If there's no non-parental relative willing to take on a kid with a newborn in tow, then it's foster care city for both of them.
...but this whole thing just reeks of BS.
Disco Lemonade: I can't decide between Noah and Isaeh.
--My mother is a nurse and more of a mom to her patients then to me and my sisters.....I don't really talk to her much, all she knows is that I want to live with my dad. i am researching getting emancipated and as far as doctor bills go......i am on Medicaid. Yes, I do "LOVE" (yes, real true love...nothing that needs to be in quotations......) my baby. I am going to raise him, not alone, with my boyfriend.......and that's that..........why you all have to push adoption is beyond me...... not going to happen.
Please God, Please please please please let this girl be a troll.
This whole thing disgusts me to no end. I can't stop hoping its all fake.
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Legally this child can't live in an apartment to raise her own child by herself. No judge would allow emancipation either, and that is legally the only way she would be allowed to live alone and raise a child. Her parents will face charges, either by the apartment complex when it comes to light that her father committed fraud when getting the apartment under his name for a minor child, or by CPS when a neighbor reports this child being neglected or this child's child being neglected. She can't even get a driver's license, how does she expect to rush her baby to the ER when (no if, when) needed? Forget all the other instance you need to have a vehicle. I also hope this is just a fake troll again.
I purposely did not address this to the OP - no 13 yr CHILD will listen to responsible advice considering she has been so irresponsible to get herself knocked up, so not worth my effort to type directly to her. Unbelievably sad.
i don’t think she is a troll anyone in the world can have this same situation in come on here for advice, i know a girl by the name of Karla who was 14 at the time had a little boy in got an apartment so its not impossible for someone’s parents to react the way her parents did, in actually she would be emancipated automatically after the baby is born in i know that for a fact because when i went in had my daughter i was only 17 in when my mother tried to sign the papers to get me admitted in the hosp. the people at the hosp told my mother that they did not need her permission for anything because i was emancipated by the state law because i was having a baby in when you are having a baby they consider the child to be an adult because they now have a dependant. my mom was pissed she refused to believe what the hosp told her. that’s why Karla got an apartment in she also went threw welfare
I'm also to the point where I hope this is fake. But I have a nagging feeling that it's not.
tinymommy - No one can take you seriously and consider you mature when you're sitting there throwing insults like a child. Just because we don't agree with your circumstances or your decisions does not make us assholes. We are mothers, and our first motherly instinct is to protect. You don't know what being a mother means, you're still learning how to grow up and handle rumors and girl drama at school.
And don't count on your boyfriend being there. Let's just say you're real. You have a wonderful daddy who's gonna buy you an apartment. Let's even say your boyfriend drives AND owns his own car and he has a job. Ok. What are you going to do if he backs out? You lose a car, and as ra11en said - you lose a ride to the hospital when your baby is in trouble. You also lose a right to the pediatrician when your baby is sick. You have to count on somebody. This somebody would be your dad, I'd assume cuz from what I've heard your not on good terms with your mother. If your boy toy backs out, you also lose income. You lose the means to pay for the pediatrician and ER visit. You lose money to buy the formula and diapers with. You can't just walk around with your head in the clouds and expect everything to work out 100% in your favor.
Crap happens hun. A boyfriend isn't tied to you. It takes money [not LOVE] to clothe, feed, and shelter your baby. People are gonna look down on you and consider you a slut. Mothers on this website are gonna wish, hope, and pray that you grow up and consider adoption. And you're gonna need to learn how to handle it. That's life.
This is my last response to this thread. It's pointless to try and force opinions on a child [even if you know what's best]. They're stubborn and hard headed.
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