is a second baby shower ok?

[craftyashley]

I think a second baby shower is kind of rude. I think a party to welcome baby after he/she is born is a great idea, then if people bring gifts, great. But I don't think it should be expected. As for Candy- It still seems a little soon to ask friends and family to restock your nursery. It was your decision to give away all your stuff, I read something somewhere that if the difference is something like 10 years, then it's ok to have another shower. Perhaps some of the friends with kids stuff they aren't using will reciprocate and give you some stuff?

[jasmine89]

i do not think it is rude at all, i just found out if you are having a 2nd child it is not called a baby shower but a sprinkle, confusing i don’t really get it but go for It, sprinkle baby shower its all the same to me, lol

[2M'sMom]

I'm having another girl at the end of June and I'm having another baby shower. I think it's ok to have one for each child. It's always a help to get needed items. This time around though I have more clothes so I just asked guests to bring things like diapers, wipes, baby wash, things like that. Plus it's going to be more of a dinner party.

I've thrown more than one baby shower for my cousin. The most important thing about baby showers is not the gifts, but more so the celebration of a new life!

[ra11en]

I never knew you weren't 'supposed' to have another shower until I joined this forum. My family and my husband's family have a baby shower for every baby, regardless of how many came before for the parents. Not that big a deal for my small family, but my husband's family is HUGE! It's never a get together to get presents, its getting together to celebrate a new life. Most families only have a few children, so it's a big deal no matter if it's the first, second, third, or eighth in my opinion. We have a birthday celebration every year, so shouldn't we have some sort of party to celebrate a new baby on the way?!

However, it is never kosher to include where you're registered in your invitation. A lot of people do this, and its actually a no-no. If someone wants to bring a gift, they can call and ask. I argued and argued with my MIL on this point when she threw our baby shower for us. I didn't want people to feel obligated to bring presents, of course everyone did it was ridiculous. And by NOT including where you're registered, you can stipulate it isn't necessary when people inquire as to where. If they really want to bring something, let them! Heck, I had tons of gifts even from people that weren't at our shower!

Maybe make it less of a formal shower setting like others said. I didn't want a typical baby shower, I wanted a party! It was a big deal that we were having a baby, it was incredibly hard for us to carry a baby to term. I wanted to celebrate! It was a house party (I was on bedrest, no other choice on location), co-ed, and included alcohol. It was so much fun!! My MIL and DH thought it was a crazy idea at first, but loved how it turned out!

I say go for it. Call it a conception party, or bun party if you aren't comfortable with a Sprinkle or Shower theme.

[Loliekay]

I think it really depends on how far apart they are. I have two so far and they are 11 years apart. Obviously, I had given everything away and needed new items. If we decided to head down that road again, we won't have another shower. I've always heard that if you have kids w/in 5 years of each other, then no shower is necessary. If you want to have a meet the new baby party afterwards, then go for it but if I hear of a 2nd shower, I just bow out gracefully as it seems gluttonous.

[buckeye mommie]

Consider yourself as very blessed for having a first shower and leave it at that. It is rude and presumptious to expect (by registering) gifts for number two.

If you want to have a welcome home party or a one month old birth celebration or welcome to the world party where everyone comes to meet the baby after it is born that is different. I still wouldn't register.

If I came to the first one and was invited to the second one, I would rsvp no and not send a gift. It is kinda greedy.

Except for ra11en's family. That is awesome, if you guys do it for every kid! I think it is great!

[mystidawn13]

I have friends and family from all over. I have never heard of them or anyone they know throwing their own baby shower! Are we throwing our own bridal showers now too? I would say absolutely no to having a shower for a second baby especially if you are doing the inviting. If you throw a party at your house, people bring gifts. If you call it a housewarming party, a birthday party, or a baby shower it doesn't matter. Guests bring gifts to celebrate the occassion. People are struggling a lot right now and your choice to have more children shouldn't be put on them. It doesn't matter much to me how close or far apart they are in age. Don't put pressure (intentional or not) on the people you love and care about to bring baby gifts. If someone else throws a baby shower for you that is very kind of them, just don't do it yourself!!!

I am due with my second baby now, and if a friend or family member threw a baby shower for me I would be flabbergasted! Be gracious for what you already have and the gifts that you will undoubtedly receive when people come to meet your new bundle.

[ra11en]

It is awesome, although I swear we have another family baby shower every other weekend. When I say his family is huge I mean HUGE. We take a gift if we can afford it at the time, but its never required. The hardest part is trying to keep up with them all.

[giraffes_buddy]

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Maybe make it less of a formal shower setting like others said. I didn't want a typical baby shower, I wanted a party! It was a big deal that we were having a baby, it was incredibly hard for us to carry a baby to term. I wanted to celebrate! It was a house party (I was on bedrest, no other choice on location), co-ed, and included alcohol. It was so much fun!! My MIL and DH thought it was a crazy idea at first, but loved how it turned out!
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hehehe - you're my kind of people, ra11en! The best baby shower I even attended started at 2:00 in the afternoon and ran until after midnight. The mother-to-be was greatly unhappy that nobody spiked the punch, but she did get a big kick out of the guys who crashed with alcohol and tried their hands at being drunken male strippers. No joke.

My friends are throwing a shower for me in a few weeks for kidlet #2. The lady that's organizing it recently was guest of honor at her shower for kidlet #5, and we'll have a shower for another in our group for her #3.

For the past few showers, we all coordinated diaper sizes in advance so that the momma of honor didn't land up with a dozen cases of size 1 diapers. No matter how many kids a mom has in advance, a new baby always needs diapers, wipes, Infant Tylenol drops, gas drops, little fingernail clippers, grooming items, disposable bibs, etc. It's the kind of stuff that's either used up, is convenient to have multiples of (especially for diaper bags), or is lost easily. And it's the kind of stuff that gets rather expensive in the beginning when you have hospital bills trickling in.

[jenn_0629]

It is rude and presumptious to expect (by registering) gifts for number two.

Maybe I am just a weirdo or something, but I think that Baby Shower's are about CELEBRATING the baby! First, Second, Third, doesn't matter. They are all important. It is not rude to have another shower. If you don't need more things for the baby, put "Gifts optional." If they can't afford to, they don't have to. Some people love spending money on their Grand-babies, and nieces and nephews, and so on. Don't worry about it, it is totally acceptable.