is a second baby shower ok?

[nkrumpfer]

With baby number two on its way I'm starting to wonder if I should register for this baby.

Is it rude to have a baby shower for your second child??

I had a huge baby shower with my daughter (50+) people and I'm thinking that if I have a second shower I'd like it to be small. Then I worry that people will be offended if they are invited to one shower and not the other.


What do you guys think>?

[Kerisweetpea]

i am pregnant with #2 and im having another baby shower for this one, i had 2 baby showers for my son and this one i am just having a big party/baby shower at my house. i just found out im having a girl, so im doing more of a baby shower that everyone is invited to, but if it was another boy it was going to be more of a party to celebrate the new baby!
and to answer your question i dont think its rude, you are not having a party just to get things you are celebrating a new baby, and new life!!!!!!!!

[lou]

isn't the term for a second baby shower called a baby sprinkle or something? I don't think it's rude. as kerisweetpea said if I have another boy eventually it would be jsut a party as I've saved everything, but for a girl I'd need clothes so I wouldn't have a registry or anything as I have all the baby gear I need.

[APEMBERTON]

No it is not rude! Actually it is starting to become a trend & I think it should be! I have no kids yet, but I totally understand. You still should celebrate another sweet new life & the gifts won't hurt..even just diapers & wipes! My mom's church does like a diaper shower for 2nd showers & I think it is great! They also say to register again too. In case someone does want to get you something it never hurts!

[taraken]

Personally I do not agree with second baby showers except special circumstances (twins, a surprise 10 years down the road etc). I think a party to show off and introduce a new baby after the baby is born is great! If guests bring gifts great. By labelling it a baby shower people feel obligated to bring gifts. As someone who already goes to 5+ baby showers a year (all first baby showers) it gets very expensive. If I was invited I would feel obligated to go and buy a gift. In my case we have more than 20 children under 5 between both sides of our families...between birthday parties, showers, and weddings...enough is enough. I know some people say "it isn't fair for them not to have new things", I disagree with that. The baby won't know first of all. Second, why waste....and if you are going to be a parent you should be able to provide new things for your baby on your own if it is that important to you. Why should someone else have to do it. Sorry I don't want this to sound bad...but as you can tell I am in definite disagreement with a second baby shower. Sorry That being said if friends throw you one on there own and don't invite an extended list...then hey that is great!

[shortcake92585]

I agree with what most of the girls have said. Maybe have a shower, but make sure people know they are not obligated to buy gifts for you. After all, you probably don't need much outside of diapers and things like that. Maybe have something written in the invitations that says, "If you wish to contribute, we are registered with..." Just make sure that the emphasis is on celebrating the new life and addition to your family!

[freckles]

I did not have a shower for my first baby because we were already in the process of moving far away. So, I had a first shower for my second baby....make sense? lol

You can celebrate a baby anyhow you feel and you dont have to call it a shower. I wanted a diaper/beer party for my hubby but plans fell through. Aint nothing like nappies and brewskies!

[Amboq07]

I dont agree with having another baby shower. The whole reason for a baby shower is so your friends and family can help you get everything you need for the baby because it is so expensive. I do however think its fine to have a small diaper shower/party. If guests want to bring more than diapers thats fine but they shouldnt feel obligated to buy more. Just getting diapers will help out a lot!

[Candy4610]

I have the same question. My son is 6 and around 4 we kind of decided we most likely were not going to have another child. I have given away a ton of my stuff to other moms who needed stuff. I don't know if I am having a boy or a girl, but either way, I am pretty much starting over. I agree that if you are a relatively new mom and had a nice baby shower previously for a "boy" and are on baby #2 which is a boy you don't need a huge shower and should limit to just the basics. However, I think if you are having a baby of a different sex or it has been more than 3 years a second shower is okay. Thoughts?

[j-love]

I think it's fine to have a party for baby #2, #3, #4 and so on. I wouldn't call it a shower. I didn't even call our first one a shower. I would register just for fun, but I wouldn't expect gifts.