Time for a new baby?

[janamac42]

I have a 9 month old son who was the best baby ever. He hardly ever cried, slept through the night at 3 months, eats great, and is just happy all the time. Now he's growing out of his baby stage and is getting into toddlerhood and I really miss having a little baby. Every time I see someone who's pregnant or with a newborn, all I can think is I want another baby. I've talked to some friends about it and they think we should go ahead and get it over with (my husband and I decided to only have 2 children). But I'm afraid that if we have a new baby too soon, we won't be able to focus as much on our son and I would feel bad for him. I'm also afraid that since Logan was such a great baby, our next one is gonna be a lot harder. My husband and I were thinking we wanted our kids to be 2-3 years apart, but that seems like such a long time to wait for a new baby. Any advice?

[ra11en]

I'm right there with you!! It hit me around the 1 yr mark with my daughter, but I know we need to wait for so many reasons. Every time I see a little baby my head screams "I want one again!". My husband is dead set on waiting, and pretty much so am I but it doesn't curb the craving! I've read in a few places that 3.5 yrs is the perfect amount of spacing for both the older child and new baby so we are going to do our best to wait as long as we can. Supposedly, 3.5 yrs allows your first one to develop the best with your one-on-one attention but not be too firm in them being the only child. Plus at that age, they can help out with the little baby which makes them feel more included! I only have one, so I have no clue if this is true.

Just know you aren't alone! Guess once you give into that ticking clock with the first one it gets louder for the next one!

[littleboyblue]

How funny, I just posted nearly the exact same thing! I'm right along with you. Someone should look into the new baby craving after nine months. I just think we did so great the first time, and he is such an angel. I'm nervous that the next baby won't be as easy and then we'll have two babies and I'll wonder what was I thinking?

[TrubearJ]

My son was three years and seven months when Trulen was born. It's the perfect gap. My oldest can help out and he's independent. However, I know that I want another one soon. My husband and I are going to start trying in January (if all is well) and I'm excited. In my opinion there is no perfect age gap. They both have their good points and their negative points. As for having a good baby, my situation was opposite. J was a hard baby and I was afraid Trulen would prove to be just as difficult. Boy was I wrong. Trulen is the greatest baby. So every baby is different and there is a little chance the other could be just as good or better or worse. But how fum would parenting be if all our children were the same?????