I am having difficulty with my 9 month old daughter in her new daycare setting. Two weeks ago (today starts week three), I moved both she and her twin brother to another sitter because my aunt is moving to another state and I wanted to move them prior to the timeframe when there may be separation issues. I was referred to a woman who is the sister in law of one of my "aunts". My husband, myself and the babies all met her and thought she would be a great match. She is a wonderful woman and really seems to care about my children. My only concern was that she would be the type to become overwhelmed easily.
My daughter is not adjusting well. I am told she cries most of the time she is there, wants to be picked up and will cry so hard she pulls on her ears. The sitter has never watched twins before and has guilt issues if she pays to much attention to Ariana vs. Aiden. I told her I completely understand as a mother of twins, I constantly struggle with issues of guilt.
I've tried what I can - I've told her to change her location i.e., bouncy seat, on the floor with toys, in the swing. But, that hasn't worked either. I've advised her to let her cry, but she said she cries so hard, she doesn't know what to do.
Ariana does want a lot of attention. My mother jokes that she is a twin who secretly wishes she were an only child. However, at home I change her scenery often and picking her up is certainly not the first option. It's gotten to the point that my "aunt" sent my mother, myself and the sitter an e-mail today as she seems to be concerned about how much she is hearing from the sitter. She has e-mailed us about colic and reflux. Ariana was premature by a month, under five pounds and suffered from colic until about 5 months. She also suffered from reflux, but I haven't had to give her the medicine for over three months now as her symptoms had subsided and I haven't heard of this behavior until recently. She also started teething recently and cut her first two teeth this weekend.
I'm so overwhelmed right now. I'm also 3 1/2 months pregnant and my emotions regarding this are ranging from feeling like a horrible mother to anger and frustration. I'm not sure how to handle this situation - both with my daughter and the sitter. I'm going to try the Zantac again - can't hurt. But if anyone can offer anything, I would certainly appreciate it. Thanks for reading, it feels good just to get it out.
Hey there! I'm sorry your having difficulty with the new transition...I'm just wondering if it's possible that your daughter might have an ear infection? Every time my son gets a tooth he get an infection.Sometimes because of all the changes that are going on you might not of even considered it.The pulling on the ears and teething is what made me think of it.Take care and good luck!
I was thinking the same thing as Fuzzy - ear infection. My daughter was notorious for ear infections ONLY when she cut teeth and she was usually pretty inconsolable until I got the infection treated. How is she sleeping at night?
Sounds like a very overwhelming situation! I hope to hear about a good outcome!
I am sorry you are having gulit issues. I cant give you advice on it. I am a new mom and i dont work but i thought it might be nice to have some support from new parents as well. And btw your daughters name is beautiful, I am kinda partial to it since thats my name lol
Thank you - the adjustment seems to be getting better and I appreciate your input and support.
Glad to hear it! Thanks for posting an update!