I can tell you that I have both a boy and a girl, and their differences have much more to do with their personalities than their gender. For example, my daughter loves to play sports and her favorite color is blue, and my son loves animals and listening to music. You don't know what your son will be like, what his interests will be, whether his favorite color will be pink or blue, etc. He will be a unique individual, and the fact that he is a boy won't change how you feel about him. You'll love him the moment you first meet him, trust me. Try to focus less on the gender and more on the fact that you will soon be a mom, which I personally feel is just about the toughest but most important and rewarding job in the world. Congratulations, and good luck.
You may be scared and apprehensive about having a boy, but you will fall in love with him more deeply than you ever imagined possible as soon as you hold him in your arms. And if you still find yourself wishing for a girl after his birth you could do what my sister and I did when our younger brother didn't turn out to be a girl like we were hoping. We basically convinced him he was a girl and he used to wear barrettes in his hair and dresses of his own free will. He turned out okay (and straight!) regardless, but I still wouldn't recommend it.
When I found out I was having a boy, I freaked out. I had no idea what to do with a boy! My mom raised my sister and me, so I knew nothing about bringing up a son. The second Christopher was born and I looked into those eyes, I was in love. He'll be ten-months-old on the 18th of this month and I can tell you one thing, I'm already planning number two and I will be praying for a little boy. I am a full believer in God giving us what he knows is best for us and what we can handle. Best of luck hun, you'll be just fine!
i also wanted a girl, i had the named picked out, i cried so much when i got the ultrasound, but as soon as i met him i fell in love, he is now 6yrs old n is the most loving sweetest,smartest and cutest boy ever!!! me n his dad arent together but he is involve with his life, n if i would have another baby n it was a boy,i will be soooo happy!!
any woman can give birth, but it takes a special person to be a real mother.
I think that it is okay that you feel this way. You had a vision of having a girl and that was taken away from you and it seems like you are mourning that loss a bit. Give yourself a little time and then see if you can start to slowly think about things that excite you about having a boy. You have a lot of time, so that is good. Good luck with the process!
How funny, I can relate but I was exactly the opposite. My DH's fam runs high to girls, so I assumed we'd have girls but really wanted boys. I was a tomboy growing up and never really got into dolls, pink, and ruffles. I was over the moon when we learned 1st was a boy. When I was expecting #2, I hoped even more for a little brother for #1 cuz we were so into BLUE already... and it was a girl! I was so nervous, took me a while to feel ok about it, would I really love her as much, etc, and WHAT THE HECK was I going to do with a GIRL? Of course you know the guilt that goes along with that!
And when she was born, she was just perfect! We got into the girl stuff just fine, just like you'll get into the boy stuff. After they're here, you just can't imagine life any other way. Now she's 3 1/2 and some days I STILL don't know what I'm going to do with her... my girly, pink-and-doll-loving princess. Sorry, I know that's what you wanted... but even though I "relate" more and have more in common with my boys (#3 was a boy), I can't imagine our family without her sparkle.
Things will work out for you, you won't be able to imagine life any other way once your darling little prince arrives. It will be nice as he gets older to have some male influence (your brothers!) in his life - that would also be true if you had a daughter anyway. Best of luck!!!
I have a 13 yr old daughter, an 8 yr. old son & just found out i am 6 weeks along with new baby. I am hoping for a boy. I think from my experience BOYS are easier, and after talking with friend they say the same. You will have this little man in your life forever, and you can teach him to be a Man and to be sensitive too. Good Luck
I already had a girl and just knew I was having another. When they told me that it was a boy, I couldn't believe it. I don't think I spoke for minutes. I was worried when I prepared, worried about how different it would be (I only have a sister), worried that I wouldn't know what to do, worried that my kids wouldn't grow up to be close because they are different genders, but you figure it all out on the journey.
As freaked as I was, as soon as he was here, he was mine and I was in love with him. He is more of a snuggler than my daughter; he is quicker to smile and he is more attached to me than she was at his age. They are all individuals and gender doesn't determine as much as I thought it would (except the wild peeing You'll love him like crazy and when "boy" stuff comes up, you'll figure out a way to handle it.
I am pregnant for the first time at age 42, I will be 43 when the baby comes in February. I just want a healthy baby w/o any problems or complications!
OmG i am going through the same thing.. i'm having a boy and my baby's father isnt planning on being around all the time. im scared that i will mess up this poor boy.. i still hope that it will turn out to be a girl because i know a little bit about girls (lol).. i mean i will love my son regardless but i think i'll have any easier time with a girl. maybe its just meant to be, i really hope soo!!