hello im 13

[Disco Lemonade]

Hey Tiny, I said it before and I meant it, KEEP YOUR MOTHERFLIPPING LEGS CLOSED. And honestly you shouldn’t see it as “being mean,” seriously it’s a good piece of advice, look at the situation you put yourself, but most of all you put an innocent child in because you were too horny to keep them closed. You want to be considered a grown woman then take advice and comments as is, I aint gonna candy coat **** for you because your 13. Like I said before, just be patient with the child because he/she is going to give you some endless nights.

[librabell]

Hi tinymommy,

I haven't read the other posts here because I can only imagine what they must say, but I did see your post about deleting your account and wanted to chime in.

I became pregnant at 14 and had my first child at 15. I am now 27, married (for 10 years in January) with 3 girls, live in the suburbs and have an excellent job.

The ONLY reason I was able to make it without going on welfare and spiraling out of control was because of the support my family was able to give me.

I managed to graduate highschool at the age of 16, but have been working at least part-time since 15.

However, I missed my senior prom, went to college part-time but never graduated, missed a lot of the fun, carefree times my peers had and had to grow up a lot quicker than I should have. I also had my share of stressful times that came very close to breaking me.

That said I think I got lucky. That in addition to the support I had from my family is what kept me afloat.

All I can say to you is life will not be easy for you or your child. If keeping your baby is what you decide to do, know that you have resources to make sure you are a productive member of society. If you decide to put your baby up for adoption, know that it is not a shameful thing and that you can do it without thinking you bowed to the pressure of others.

Feel free to send me a private message if you just want to talk to someone who has been there, done that and is not as likely to judge as some others.

Wishing you the best of luck whatever path you choose.

[kateambers123]

Hey Tiny, I said it before and I meant it, KEEP YOUR MOTHERFLIPPING LEGS CLOSED. And honestly you shouldn’t see it as “being mean,” seriously it’s a good piece of advice, look at the situation you put yourself, but most of all you put an innocent child in because you were too horny to keep them closed. You want to be considered a grown woman then take advice and comments as is, I aint gonna candy coat **** for you because your 13. Like I said before, just be patient with the child because he/she is going to give you some endless nights.

WOW. You dont call that mean? Yes, you're giving an honest advice and opinion from your point of view, but there are other ways to approach this situation or help a 13 year old girl who obviously needs help out. The girl is already pregnant, so how is it that you are helping her by telling her to shut her legs? That makes no sense. The biggest concern is what she is going to do with the baby NOW, not later on for future reference. This just goes to show that you are being rude and not the least helpful at all. What I think is if you have nothing supportive or neutral to say, then don't say it at all.

[Disco Lemonade]

WOW. You dont call that mean? Yes, you're giving an honest advice and opinion from your point of view, but there are other ways to approach this situation or help a 13 year old girl who obviously needs help out. The girl is already pregnant, so how is it that you are helping her by telling her to shut her legs? That makes no sense. The biggest concern is what she is going to do with the baby NOW, not later on for future reference. This just goes to show that you are being rude and not the least helpful at all. What I think is if you have nothing supportive or neutral to say, then don't say it at all.

Wait till you start witnessing all the trolling that goes on here, you don’t know who the fuck is real and who’s just taking up space. Then you'll really get the feel for this place. I still doubt this Tiny poster, but regardless I still give my advice

Same thing I told the other girl, so I guess my "rudeness" (I call it bluntness) comes out when I start to think this could be another troll. You see there's this certain poster on here that ruined it for us all. She would post "situations" just like these...Just for the record, I’m actually a very sweet person, just honest that’s all. I guess I tend to say what people hold in.

[*MAKAYLA'S MAMA*]

I agree, that while not the norm within our society it does happen and in some parts of the world it is more culturally accepted. I wasn't trying to say that because it is accepted elsewhere that we should conform, I was just using it as an example. At 13, most teens are still children and there are many that aren't...the point of my post was just to say "hey...remember that we are dealing with someone that probably feels very alone and scared" and saying cruel things to intentionally hurt someone just isn't right...I am not sure where all these moms live that people walk down the street saying cruel things to others but that just seemed a little ridiculous...of course she will be judged and her family will be judged but like I said she just seems like a scared, pregnant girl...regardless of her age...and is looking for someone for a little support.

[*MAKAYLA'S MAMA*]

I understand where you are coming from, but to say the things you say really is cruel...especially to someone in her position....you said it, you don't know who is real or not on here but you automatically jumped on her with such ferocity that it was a little scary and I am 28...just imagine how a 13 year old would feel

[kateambers123]

Wait till you start witnessing all the trolling that goes on here, you don’t know who the fuck is real and who’s just taking up space. Then you'll really get the feel for this place. I still doubt this Tiny poster, but regardless I still give my advice

Same thing I told the other girl, so I guess my "rudeness" (I call it bluntness) comes out when I start to think this could be another troll. You see there's this certain poster on here that ruined it for us all. She would post "situations" just like these...Just for the record, I’m actually a very sweet person, just honest that’s all. I guess I tend to say what people hold in.

ANYONE in here could be a troll for all we know. We wouldnt know now, would we? So either you don't take it seriously and you just ignore the posts, or you give an honest but neutral/supportive opinion or piece of advice. I don't even know if she's real or not but it doesn't seem like an impossible situation so I'm giving my POLITE advice to this 13 year old girl that's probably confused and scared and just needs MOTHERS to talk to. I thought mothers on here were classier than this and more polite than this.

[Mikey_BKK]

Tinymommy, I have read through your posts and I think that they are pretty mature. In fact, they are good, so good that I too wonder if they really are written by a 13 year old. Still, that’s a question to be answered another time. For now, Welcome to the forum, troll or not
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The truth is that you have a really really hard time ahead of you and you do not know what you are getting yourself into. This is a fact that you don’t agree with, I know, you think that you are starting to understand it now but sorry Timymommy, you still don’t have the whole picture.
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People here have tried to tell you that your decision is not a good idea, some have been a bit rude, others have said the same thing but been more civilised doing so. Learn to live with it; America is an aggressive society so it is not going to go away. Regardless, they have all been right, it is not a good idea.
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13 year olds get pregnant every day unfortunately, what shall we do? You are in one of the worst possible countries to get pregnant at 13, and at one of the worst possible times… If you had been in Asia, then you would simply have been sent away to a relative for 9 months (not to make the family lose face), then you would have come back again. You would have missed a year in school so you would have to do it again, the child would have been taken care of by a relative somewhere and you could have gone to see her whenever money and time allowed, probably. And once you finish school, if your parents and relatives think you are capable of it, you could “get your child back again”. Then of course, if the child wanted to switch parents, that is. Sounds pretty humane to me
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What does this gibberish about Asia tell a 13-year-old girl living in America? It tells you that since you are 13, you need adults to help you if you decide to keep the baby. You need either your parents OR your boy friends parents, you don’t necessarily need both but trust me, you’ll need all the support you can so both would be good :-) To have only the fathers support is hardly going to be enough
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You ask - You all think that I can do it?
Well, now you know what you need to find answers to. You say that you have the fathers support, good start, do you have his parents support? Can you get your parents support? That’s where the key to success lies. Go back and talk to them, tell them as it is – I am going to need your support, will you help?
If they say no, ask them – Do you think that you would change your mind when you see that lovely little face :-)
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Stick around timymommy, you're going to need it, and you will get advice too
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Michael
Father of Idea, the good idea

[Mikey_BKK]

Wow, why are my posts always so long?

[*Babylon*]

what I don't understand is what does she expect. Praise? being sexually active at 13 is nothing to be proud of, getting pregnant at that age is just a tragedy. Kudos for not aborting, but she cannot seriously expect encouragement. If she was "mature" enough to have sex, one should also reasonably expect her to know what are the risks involved and be responsible. Get condoms, use contraception. If she had gotten hep c instead of a pregnancy, would you be all oh so supportive and understanding?