Help!!! How should I punish

[Cassagc]

I disagree with most of the posters on this thread. Spanking works with some, if not most, kids. Heck, I had to go cut my own switch from the tree and don't even get me started on the razor strap that hung on the back of the bathroom door. I was spanked and I turned out just fine. We've become an overprotective freakout country. Get real people! Have you ever looked at the timeframe of when spanking became taboo and the aggression/violent crime increase in children? Coincidence, I think not.

I know you said that you tried everything but what does that entail? I'm assuming you've tried the standards; timeout, taking fav things away, grounding, talking, positive reinforcement, ect. I ask because I was a nanny for 8 years and in my experience, different kids respond to different discipline types. I've found that girls typically respond more to nonphysical disciplines. Try random desciplines for a set period of time, it might take a bit but you'll be able to find out what she responds to. It could be something as simple as using a swat from a wooden spoon or as complicated as finding the one thing she can't "live" without.

I wish I could help you out more but spanking may be the action she will respond to for the time being. If that's the case, then there's nothing wrong with that as long as you're not going overboard.

[charliesmommy]

Cassagc~Spanking is one thing, beating is another. I was also spanked. Not often and only for doing things that could potentially hurt others or myself. Not to mention, spanking is ineffective hours later. Especially for a 6 year old.

[freckles]

I disagree with most of the posters on this thread. Spanking works with some, if not most, kids. Heck, I had to go cut my own switch from the tree and don't even get me started on the razor strap that hung on the back of the bathroom door. I was spanked and I turned out just fine. We've become an overprotective freakout country. Get real people! Have you ever looked at the timeframe of when spanking became taboo and the aggression/violent crime increase in children? Coincidence, I think not.

To spank or not to spank? I am a spanker not a "beater." I do beat my eggs. I try other methods as well. I am not going around my house with my hand held in the air waiting to WHACK one of my kids! I dont whip them minute they come out of the womb.

I dont like when ppl state that spanking doesnt work because the same theory could apply to all forms of discipline, especially the "broken record" lecturing method. Most kids I know who dont get a spanking get on my nerves. Sorry but true.

Alot of truth to that time frame theory you've got! Discipline, like I always have said, is showing that you love your child. You love them enough to pay attention and correct them....which ever form of discipline you choose that works for that particular child.

[H.Starr]

I don't disagree with the occasional spanking for a child, but "beating" your kids is never okay for any reason. And will not have the effect you're aiming for anyway.

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[Mikey_BKK]

Spanking is outlawed in Sweden since long, there is a clear law there that you are not in any way allowed to physically harm your child. Spanking is Very Taboo
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Still, Sweden is one of the least violent and aggressive countries in the world
Still, Swedes are among the least aggressive people in the world (anyone want to argue with that )
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No connection what so ever with spanking, but e.g. allowing your child to watch Cartoon Network or any cartoon with violent scenes in certainly has.
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I do believe there is a connection with beating though
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Michael
Father of Idea,, the good idea

[Mikey_BKK]

lexynpjsdad, you used the work 'beating', you were the one teaching her to use the responses she does. Don't like them now?
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One way to change her behaviour would be to apologise to her for beating her and explain to her that hurting any other being is bad
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That will work, over time
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Michael
Father of Idea, the good idea

[Mikey_BKK]

I can't help it, I will post one more insight...
We reinforce the behaviour we want our children to have, not beat or spank it into them
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Reinforcement is the way to go with children, it requires patience but the long term rewards of doing it are great
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Michael
Father of Idea, the good idea