Help!!! How should I punish

[lexynpjsdad]

Ok this is something i am not sure how to do i have tried everything for other things and the only thing that has worked is beatting her. She is a 6yr girl and today when she was in school a kid was teasing her calling her mommy. So she scraches the kids face up.

What can i do??

[cay8099]

When you say you beat her; I'm going to assume that you spank........

When you discipline do you stick with it? If you ground her do you stick with it? When you take away privelages do you stick with it? You must stick with it, or nothing will wirk. Spanking repeatedly will only make her work harder at not getting caught.

Is she usually a well behaved child? If so maybe what you need to work on is self control, and anger management. Here's a link that may help.

http://www.athealth.com/Consumer/iss...ildsanger.html

[cay8099]

When you say you beat her; I'm going to assume that you spank........

When you discipline do you stick with? When you ground her, or take away privelages do you stick with it? You must stick with it, or nothing will work. Spanking repeatedly will only make her work harder to not get caught.

Is she usually a well behaved child? If so maybe what you need to work on is self control and anger management. Here is a link that may help.

http://www.athealth.com/Consumer/iss...ildsanger.html

[cay8099]

When you say you beat her; I'm going to assume that you spank........

When you discipline do you stick with? When you ground her, or take away privelages do you stick with it? You must stick with it, or nothing will work. Spanking repeatedly will only make her work harder to not get caught. Repeated spanking also teaches a child to punish others with violence.

Is she usually a well behaved child? If so maybe what you need to work on is self control and anger management. Here is a link that may help.

http://www.athealth.com/Consumer/iss...ildsanger.html

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[rayasmom]

It kills me when I hear that parents beat/hit their child. It doesn't make sense. Kids imitate...you hit, they hit...you swear, they swear...you throw things, they throw.

Talk to her, tell her it's unacceptable behavior. If it continues, tell her that her favorite toy will get a time out for an entire day...or take away a privilege she really enjoys having.

If you need to...step away in the heat of things...take a deep breath, and then address the situation.

I know it may be hard not to let your temper get the best of you. Do you want your daughter to be the kind of parent you are now?

[H.Starr]

Believe it or not, beating your kids actually DOESNT work. It might seem like it for the moment, but in the long wrong you're just going to make her mean and hateful (as she's displaying already at school) and afraid/resentful of you.

Have you tried sitting her down and having a serious, patient, TWO-SIDED conversation about things? Six years old is old enough to have her own thoughts and ideas, maybe if you try discussing things you can help her understand why hitting other kids is wrong and a better way to solve the problem.

The trick there though is you have to practice what you preach. Even children have no respect for hypocrisy.

[cay8099]

When you say you beat her; I'm going to assume that you spank........

When you discipline do you stick with it? When you ground her, or take away privelages do you stick with it? You must stick with it, or nothing will work. Spanking repeatedly will only make her work harder to not get caught. Repeated spanking also teaches a child to punish others with violence.

Is she usually a well behaved child? If so maybe what you need to work on is self control and anger management. Here is a link that may help.

http://www.athealth.com/Consumer/iss...ildsanger.html

[charliesmommy]

Beating is a little to harsh and the other posters are correct. You're making her mean.

My advice, take her favorite thing away when she misbehaves like that. Explain why you're taking it away. Let her have it back the next day and explain that if she does something like that again you will take it and something else away.

Above all....Stop Beating Your Child!!!

[cay8099]

Are you actually beating your child?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! because if you are; shame on you.........She is a child who learns by example!!!!! No wonder she resorted to violence.

Even if when you say you beat her, you actually mean that you spanked her, you are still teaching her violence. Using this method of discipline will teach her to lie to you, and make her work her ass off to make sure you don't catch her doing something wrong.

Here are some alternative methods:

1.Reward good behavior. She goes so many days without resorting to violence. She gets a reward. A sleep over at a friends house, or a trip to DQ. Whatever works for you. Don't forget to praise her for good behavior. Children crave our approval. She wants to please you. Let her know when she does.

2.Take away privelages. No palying outside, no TV, no video games for a certain period of time. Above all stick with it. If you say a week don't give the privelage back after only 2 days. Let me stress this point STICK WITH IT. If you don't follow through and stick with it you teach her nothing.

Please stop hitting your child. If you feel the need to go there, leave the room to calm down, and try again. There are other alternatives.