Young Mom needing adivce

[hey_jude]

hello!
well those who don't mind, don't matter, and no matter how people look at you it shouldn't have any effect on you as a mother. As long as you know you are doing a good job at being a mommy then thats all that matters, and thats all that should matter. Im considered a young mother, I gave birth to my twins when i was 18. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years and we are basically married but i do not wear a wedding band, so i get the dirty looks all the time, but all i do is walk with a grin. why should i care what other people think of me and my children? I guess it looks bad because i already have 2 children and i am not 21 yet, but most people do not come to the conclusion that they are twins because they look nothing alike, and besides the fact that ones a boy and ones a girl. I go to school online full time so i can stay home with my kids and raise them the right way, and i so far i think im doing a great job. they just turned 2, they can speak and understand 3 different languages, but i do wish they were potty trained...lol, we have our own house and vehicles paid in full and we are in a great enviorment, but you know most people wont stand to listen to what you have to say, they automatically judge you. I say let people think what they want to think, you cant change their minds and how they think and most of them are just naive to begin with.

[sweetxcheekss]

i'm a young mother as well. i was pregnant with my son a little before 19. i'm now 20 and he is 7 months old. i know EXACTLY what you mean! whenever i go places, people are constantly starring at me and giving me dirty looks as if it's wrong for me to have a child and it's like they're waiting for me to do something wrong. i hate getting those dirty stares. although i don't work nor go to school, that decision was up to me because i want to focus all my attention on raising my son the right way. i love being a mother and i know i do a great job taking care of him so AGE should really have nothing to do with parenting. its a matter of being able to step up to the responsiblities and take care of your child and raise them the right way. its about maturity. there are lots of women out there that are way older than we are and still suck at being a mother so i don't get why people are constantly looking down on young mothers.
i admire you for being a young mother to 2 twin boys. parenting ONE kid comes with so many challenges already so imagine 2. i'm sure you are doing a wonderful job at being one and its so great that you are still going to school fulltime! i have alot of respect for young mothers that are able to raise their kids the same time they go get an education. i wish i could do that but i think i'm a bit too attached to my son. but either way, at the end of it all, school work or neither, all that matters is if you are able to raise your kid(s) in a healthy happy environment and give them all the love they need!

[amykenny143]

wow that lady was truely sour im a mother of 2 and im 17 so what i dont care what people have to say i dont feed of them or they dont pay my bills there just sour old people

[amykenny143]

by the way dont feel bad all you need is you blessing from god and your men thats all that count their not important i get that look all the time trust me

[Jessica.r]

Honestly i think ive only had two remarks about having a baby so young. im 20 and my son is 3, He use to do modeling and when we went to an agency this guy sat us in the room and was like i dont think this is the best situation for you to get into since it takes alot of money in this career. i went off i told him that it was none of his buissness if we had the money and now he wasnt even gonna get our money and id think about what i say next time because i gaurentee that someone will punch you in your face for being so ignorant. When i was done he sat there with a stare on his face.just realize if someone gives you a dirty look tell them that there wrong dont let them say **** you dont have to be a ***** what i say its my life my sons life your approval isnt needed and the outcome is the most gorgeous little thing.

[born2write87]

I am a young mother of a eighth month old baby girl and I am 22 years old. I became pregnant with my fiancee who is now my husband when I was nearly 21. When I talk about my baby girl to other people (especially older people) they become shocked that I am, 1. Married and 2. have a child. They say that I am too young. It is not like I have no idea who the father is and I am not 13 years old. I was and am still in a very committed relationship and I cannot understand why people can have the balls to say such things.

[zoesmama90]

I had my daughter when I was 18, I am only 19 now and I know what you mean. Everyone always just judges me just because I am a young mom. They automatically think I was some little skeez who accidentally got pregnant, and now the guy has left me, you know the story. Well I am married, my husband is wonderful, we are living with his parents to save up for a house but he pay rent and some bills, we both have jobs. I just hate how ignorant people can be. And the thing is we planned to have her, so everyone thinks I am crazy, they always ask me why did you want to have a baby at such a young age? And I say, why not? It's my choice, thats what my husband and I wanted, my husband is 21 though. I think the problem is a lot of people in this world have a certain mindset, a certain time and age to have a baby, when its right and wrong, and when someone does something that doesnt follow that guideline they think its so wrong! Well you know what I love how my life is and if you're happy thats all that matters. Forget the rest, and most of all forget ignorant people like that!

[meganbatton]

That is pretty ridiculous. I'm the same way. My husband and I got married a few months after my 19th birthday. We've now been married a year and 3 months and our baby girl will be 6 months old the 28th. Not only do we get crap for having a baby so young; they think we're too young to be married and it'll just end in failure. It's irritating because we have the most dedication to our marriage that I have ever seen in a lot of young couples. Our daughter has everything and anything she could ever need. We just relocated to Virginia and now have a four bedroom house; my husband stays home while I work. People just get bad opinions of young parents from seeing one or two bad young moms and believe its a universal thing. It's very stereotypical!

[azszhz]

I'm 20, happily married and currently 8 months pregnant. I get looks all the time and once when I was hanging out with my mom and step dad I even got the 3rd degree from some lady that said she worked at an alternative school (I guess she's dealt with to many pregnant teens or something). She kept asking me all these personal questions about my life, like if I was with someone or single (I don't wear my wedding ring because I'm not really much for jewelry and my constant changing size) and if I graduated high school and what kind of job my husband had and where I lived. It was ridiculous and I felt like she was trying to find any excuse to hate me and judge me. I'm happy to say that I answered everyone of her questions with confidence and shut her up real quick. You just got to keep on going and not let those types of people ruin your life. After all their not the ones living your life, they really have no say.

[zoesmama90]

What happens to me all the time is when I'm with my mom in the store and I have my daughter everyone automatically assumes that it's my mom's baby... and when I'm like oh thats my baby, they give me this look and just pretend to be happy for me.."oh thats cute" or something along those lines,totally sarcastic and in their heads they are thinking "she messed up" or something like that i hate that!!