Age difference, too close???

[youngmommy23]

My husband and I have recently (like 2 days ago) discussed openly about trying to concieve for the 2nd time, he is ready and so am I. I am a little bit concerned about my 6 month old son and if the birth of another child not even 2 years apart will affect him. Does anyone have 2 kids less than 2 years apart in age and if so how has the transistion been for you so far? My husband and I agreed that we do want our children to grow up close in age. We have heard the good and the bad of bringing another child into the family so soon. Let me know what you think!

[Mamadecuatro]

Hello, YoungMommy! I have four children, two of which, are very close in age (less than a year!). They are now 7 and 8, both boys, and BEST friends! It was hard taking care of two in diapers, two with bottles, two carsearts, highchairs, up in the night, etc. But my main concern at first, was how our baby at the time would do, with a little brother. I think because they are SO close in age, it didnt affect him like I was imagining. He did great having a new baby! It was probably the hardest on me, physically and having to split my time. And trying to enjoy their infancies, knowing it would fly by, not wanting to have so much regret at what I missed because I was feeling so overwhelmed! I hate to say, I didnt do a very good job! But, I am learning...I love my kids very much. They teach me so much. They certainly have pushed me to become a more patient, forgiving, organized, loving mama!

If you and your husband are in agreement, that's the first step! I hope your next little blessing comes at the perfect time!

[MommaC]

My friends who had them super close didn't see too much difficulty with sibling accepting the baby, but it's definitely hard on the mom. Adding another kid is always a transition that takes some time and getting used to, but your first baby will be 15/18 months...that's a BUSY time! If you're both up for it, go for it. Really no one can tell you what's "best", because "best" is different for every family. I wish you luck (and lots of energy!)!

[dakotadenver]

Hello. I am a mommy of five, (16, almost 15 and almost 11, 2 & 1). My fisrt two are girls who are 17 months apart and my last two are boys who are 19 months apart. With my first two, I was younger and it never seemed difficult to have 2 under two. Two in bottles, with pacifiers, etc. But with the last two!!!! I thought, well I have done this before. Shouldn't be too hard. Boy was I in for a shocker! I had forgotten about all of the sleep I would be forced to go without. The phone calls from my husband at the store asking which size diaper for which baby. Each baby sucked a different style pacifier. I'd say the first 2 months were the hardest. Getting the baby on our schedule and helping our toddler cope with the schedule changes that had to occur since the baby arrived proved to be our most difficult. But once routines were back in order, it seemed the baby had always been there!! Just one more person to love. I wouldn't have it any other way! Now we are tackling potty training! Fun! Once you have listened to everybody's advice, use what you can, throw out the rest, be realistic with yourselves and do what you feel best.

[Twilightcraze]

I have a friend who just had a baby and her other child is not even a year and a half. It does seem very hectic at times, especially because of diapering and still having her daughter need her help in feeding, etc. It does seem though, that having 2 kids close in age would be great for them, as they would be most likely interested in nearly the same types of things and they would have a companion in life that knew what they were going through because of the closeness in age. There also would be less of a chance of jealousy I think. If both you and your husband are ready mentally, emotionally, physically, and financially then I would say go for it!! I wish u guys the best in whatever decision you make!

[lindseyh911]

My boys are 17 months apart. I didn't plan it that way, is just happened that way, and now I wouldn't change it for anything. It was a little rough the first few months, but now my boys are 2 1/2 and almost 4 and they are best friends. They are inseperable and absolutely adore each other. In the morning the first thing Ethan does is ask where Alex is and when Alex gets up from his nap he immediatly goes looking for Ethan.
I think it'll be rough in the fall when Ethan starts pre-school, poor Alex will be lost.

[Mom012108]

Hello,
I have a 15 month old and my husband and I are seriously considering a second at this point. My Mom said it best..."enjoy the first one's baby phase before you have another baby - it's the only one you'll get to pay ALL your attention to"...that really made sense to me. We were going to try for another before he turned a year, but decided that we'd like to enjoy him a little longer first, also, we have limited space where we live! Now we really feel ready...just need the space! All in all, you need to do what's best for you and your family. If you have the energy, space and the means...go for it!

[leaha27]

I had given birth to my 1st son Jeffrey March 9,08 and June 12 we fouund out we were expecting AGAIN!! Sort of planed, but thought it would take longer. I gave birth to Sean Jan 16. I will say we have our good and bad days, but when I think about how close my boys will be it doesn't bother me, plus we save on the cost of clothing and toys..lol..

[joius78]

im feeling a little like youngmommy, my son is 4 months and according to the "fertility caculator" there is the possibility that I may be preggers again, I honestly wanted my children spaced out by 3 years, my husband doesnt want anymore period, (he has a daugher 11years old) from a previous relationship, but I dont feel like children should grow up alone. Now he wants to discuss our "options" if I am, but i dont feel like there are any options. Sp im now thinking will it really be hard, 2 children under 2????

[waiting4no7]

I have six children total, and the last three are each a year apart. It was a busy span of time with three tiny ones in the house, but it was also a lot of fun =) Probably the hardest thing was having three in diapers at once. Oh man. Those were the days lol