ok my goddaughter is to afraid to tell her mom she's being bullied.but she talked to me about it and said that this girl at school gets really really mad when she will not play with her so the bully nuges her and says shut-up and whatever to her then asks her other friend to play with her so my god daaughter won't have eny one to play with. and i don't won't to lose her trust by telling her mom.she made me promise to not tell but before she told me.but i don't no what to do.so please help!
Nine times out of ten if you stand up to a bully, they will stop. Although it sounds like that is what your GD is doing by not playing with her. I bet if the friend stops going to play with this bully, she will stop. Why is the friend going with the bully? Is she afriad? BTW, she made you promise not to tell her mom, but you didn't promise not to talk to a teacher.
"Our best successes often come after our greatest disappointments" -Henry Ward Beecher
We had the same problem. It turns out to be fairly common. Once I shared the situation with another mom, she said her own daughter had that happen last year. When I spoke to the school counselor, she told me that bullying by girls is often "relational", meaning someone she has a relationship with is the bully, like a friend ends up bullying another girl with threats like your goddaughter is suffering.
So, how to help? Explain to goddaughter that you and she must share this with her mom and do it together. Encourage mom to call teacher and school counselor. They have seen this happen many times and can help.
Find this book at library or bookstore: My Secret Bully by Trudy Ludwig. It tells the story of a girl who's best friend begins to bully her.
What do you know? there bff's now! lol. She stopped bulling her a LONG TIME AGO!