miscarriage

[RImommy]

I thought I would get things started, since there have been no posts under miscarriage yet. Last week I had my monthly ob appointment on Tuesday, I was 14 weeks and had no problems. That morning I woke up with spotting, so I called the dr. to see if I should go in earlier and have an ultrasound just to make sure everything was ok. Since I was in my second trimester, I had thought I passed the most dangerous time, so the sudden spotting worried me. As soon as they started the ultrasound I knew something was wrong, and sure enough the baby had stopped developing around 9-10 weeks. I didn't know very much about miscarriage and assumed that when it started is when you get symptoms like bleeding; I didn't realize that it could take weeks for your body to realize something had happened. So I had a d&c the next day, and we will probably start trying again after another menstrual cycle. Hopefully no one else here is going through this, but if you are -good luck for future successes and getting through your loss.

[cay8099]

I'll share my miscarriage experience:

It was 6 years ago. My husband and I (he was my fiance at the time) found out we were pregnant in August of 2002, and a few weeks later the bleeding started. I called my OB, and she got me in for an ultrasound. That's when we found out that I had miscarried. Well that Dec. we conceived, and this time it was a full term healthy pregnancy. During my c-section we found out that I only have half a uterus. It was explained to me like this: When a female is in the womb, there is a wall between the 2 sides of the uterus. As you develope the wall disolves and the 2 sides fuse together. My wall never disolved, and the left side never developed. Another lady on the boards here said her OB called it a horned uterus. I now have 2 boys, who were both born after full term, healthy pregnancies. Good luck to those of you who have the same condition, and know that there is hope.

[lou]

I too miscarried back in 07 at 12 weeks. it is hard at first and I do still think of it. I would have been due feb. 14th of 08, so Vday has sort of been ruined for me. but later that year I did conceive and had a healthy full term, exactly full term (born on his due date), baby who's now 6 months. the pregnancy was hard, though as I was so worried something would go wrong. at one of my ultra sounds they said his kidneys measured too large and after birth he may have to have corrective surgery but not to worry it wasn't a big deal. yeah right not worry were they joking? It turned out that everything was fine and I just had a bad tech who measured wrong but that couple weeks there was really scary.
I truely feel for anyone going through this. just know that eventually it will get easier and there is light at the end of the tunnel. you'll never forget, but you won't always hurt either.

[Amboq07]

I also mascarried. It was this past January I was 6 weeks. The day I was supposed to go for my first dr visit I woke up full of blood so I knew what happend. It is a really sad situation and I still think about it. The dr said to wait 3 or 4 months before trying again so we will be trying again in May. Wish us luck!

[tajagold]

I had a miscarried about 6mths ago and now I can talk about it, before i could not say anything about the whole thing, but I went the 9mths and held her in my arms and help feed her song a song to her and told her I love her, I had her for 3days and she help me to love myself and to love just life itself, I have 7 children plus my 8th and I miss her so bad, now I thing I having one more because I took A test and it said yes, so I need to call the doc. but I feel that I Need some more time, to late, anyway I am happy!!!!!! but let me know what you think.

[lyricallove]

My heart goes out to anyone who has ever experienced the pain of miscarriage. I miscarried at 14 weeks in March of 07. We were devastated. I went through depression. I couldn't go in public because I would freak out on people or get so sad when I would see children being mistreated, if they didn't have shoes or a coat on in the cold. In Aug. Of 07, I started seeing the Dr.about once a week getting lab work, paps ultrasounds, etc. In preparation to have a laproscopy done for endometreosis. The day of surgery, as routine, they did a prepnancy test on me. OMG...I was pregnant. 3 and a half weeks. My Dr. was shocked and so were we. Now, I have a healthy 10 month old baby. I firmly believe that God only gives you what you can handle, even though it is devastating. It makes you stronger. It made my marriage stronger. The pain hurts and you never forget it. You just know that you have a special angel that you created at your side. You are blessed. Much love....

[lindseyh911]

I miscarried in 2004, I know that was a while ago but I still think about that baby sometimes. It would have been our first child. My doctor does an ultrasound at 8 weeks to check for a heartbeat and there wasn't one. It was my first Dr visit for my first pregnancy, such a disappointment. I never bled or had any signs of a miscarriage. He called it a Missed AB Pregnancy, he said my body could have hung onto it for weeks.
When I got pregnant the second time I noticed a HUGE difference. I never really had any pregnancy symptoms the first time around, the second time I had nausea and sore breasts. I was much more confident about it when I went to my first visit for the second pregnancy. I just knew the second one would hold on. I now have 2 very active little boys.

[allywithlove]

Ok, so mine wasn't a miscarriage but I wanted to share my story with you. I got pregnant in August of 2004. I had a perfectly normal pregnancy all the way through. I started having contractions on April 19th and went to the hospital about 11 that night - I was in labor. Around 3 am, the nurses couldn't find a heartbeat. I was only dialated to 7 cm. My doctor came running in the room and yelled to push and don't stop. My beautiful daughter was born 5 minutes later. I watched the doctors and nurses work on her for 20 minutes but they couldn't bring her back. A few hours later I found out that I had a full placental abruption, which means the placenta tore away from the lining of my uterus. She was our 1st child. I know everything happens for a reason. Her father and I fought the entire time I was pregnant and we almost split up several times. After Ally died, it brought us together. We were married 5 months later. I'm now happy to say that I have a wonderful husband and a healthy, beautiful 6 1/2 month old son.

Love to everyone who has suffered a loss. Please know that although it doesn't go away, it does get easier.

[djasinski]

Well.... When I was 19 (about 6 months after being married) I found out I was pregnant. I was scared but very happy. My husband was too. I felt great. I went for a check up at 14 weeks and my sis was with me. They did not get the babies heart beat on doppler so they wanted an abdominal US. I was nervous. As soon as the baby came up on the screen he/she was about 1/2 the size from the last US. I knew right then. My sis stepped out to call my husband. Then the MD did a vaginal US- not change. He explained that the baby stopped developing about 2 weeks prior. Everyone in our town knew we were having a baby. We were so happy we even had started buying things and planning our shower. It took us 9 months to get pregnant. I had a D&C the day of my 20th birthday (Jan 2006)then had to go back to nursing school the next day and tell everyone. My husband never knew what to say to me. I just told him I would not be over it until I was pregnant again. 8 weeks later I was pregnant and my daughter was born Nov 2006. We did not tell everyone right away but once we felt comfortable we told everyone!!!

Allywithlove- My heart goes out to you!!

Everyone else- I am glad we are all here to talk about it. God Bless

[pregnantagain]

I had a miscarriage 9 years ago just before my 26th birthday...I was 12 weeks pregnant and I really felt pregnant but when I went to my dr appointment She couldn't find the heart beat, the ultrasound showed the baby was underdeveloped for age...I was sent to the lab for a blood draw and had to have another blood draw exactly 24 hours later to check for the amount of hcg. It was a long and scary wait, so to take our minds off the what ifs my husband and I took our children to the zoo. When we got back we heard the message the nurse left, she didn't say in the message what the test results were but we could just tell by the sound of her voice it wasn't good. After receiving the dreaded phone call I totally lost it!! I think the most torturing part was that my dr told me that my body would hopefully soon expell the baby...which it did weeks later but the sack remained and my body still thought it was pregnant and the sack was growing bigger even though it was empty!! I ended up having a d&c to remove the sack...my body was going through so many hormonal changes I cried, I was angry, I was scared and depressed. I needed some time off from work both before the surgery and after so I told my boss in confidence what I was going through and she in turn told some of my co-workers who told everyone else...my 1st day back to work was awful...I heard from some people hurtful remarks like "so what, at least you already have kids", "It happens to people all the time it's nothing to be upset about". People can be so cruel!! My body started to adjust after the surgery and then 6 months later I concieved my now 7 1/2 year old daughter....and I was scared...every little twinge, cramp or spotting ended up in a same day dr visit or trip to the e.r. I still think about it from time to time...Kenny Chesney sings a song that brings back alot of those memories its called someday. I now have 7 beauties...Josh 17, Chelsie 13, justin 10, Kayla 7, Jordan 5, Jaden 2 and Karly 8 weeks!! I thank God for them all!! I hope no one else would ever have to go through this but if anyone is I wish you love, strength and faith...It may not seem like it at the time but things will get better...you will never forget but it will get easier to deal with in time....God bless us all!!