This is my first time posting on a forum like this but its 5 am where i'm at and i cannot sleep because i am scared to.
My nine year old son has suddenly take a turn for bad boy alley. The last two weeks he has made up lie after lie about meanless things. But now it is getting more serious and I'm worried that he is going to put our youngest child in danger.
Nothing to do with the fact he his lying other then that i cannot trust him. (my son was sexually mistreated by a family memeber when tyler was 3) We have had not reason to think that he would ever act out. But it just the fact that we cannot trust him.
This morning at 4am we here my daughter (who is two almost 3) yell for him from upstairs. Apparently they were up!!!!!!!!!.... My daughter never gets out of bed unless someone is there to take her out of bed. (normally she lays in bed a yells, "daddy where are you?" till my hubby rushes to her rescue.) We jump out of bed wondering what is going on.... rush the kiddos back to be and tell them to stay there... its night time!@!!!!
Then i get "awake" and go and ask my son... about how... and why he was up... of couse he has about 15 different stories... first he had to go tot he bathroom and she woke up... then he heard her upstairs, so he went to get her to put her back in bed... then it was this... then it was that...
I got no "true" answer... he just kinda fumbled over his lies... and i got frazzed and decided i will deal with it in the morning. I would lke to think that he just wanted someone to watch cartoons with... and since he is grounded from tv she was the perfict reason to be up...
But he getting her out of bed at night raises all kinds of safety issues,., what is there is a fire or she chokes or who knows!!!! I dont think he would do anything to hurt her... but I CANNOT BELIEVE a word that comes out of his mouth... so how am i supposed to beleive he will not hurt her?
What do i do? Please help!!!!!!
my son is 11 and he was also mistreated at 3 by a family member, though very minor as the person was a child himself. my son doesn't remember it and i keep it that way. but he's an 11 year old boy and when he's caught doing something wrong he makes up all sorts of things too until i just tell him he's lying. sometimes he throws a fit and says, "you don't believe me! no one believes me!" but he's 11 and he assumes the world surrounds around him.
you could just ask your daughter why she woke up, but i wouldn't assume he was going to hurt her or assume he's becoming a 'bad boy' because he makes up stories when he's in trouble. he's probably overly paranoid he is going to get into trouble or you will blame him for something he feels he didn't do even if he did.
he's only nine years old, he hasn't even gotten to the teenage it's all your fault age yet.
a quote i liked from House, "Just because you gave birth to a freak of nature doesn't mean you should treat him like one."
don't treat your son like a victim turning aggressor, he's more than likely just being a boy.