I am so sorry for the situation that you are in. I will not even say what I would do in your situation because I do not have all of the facts and I don't know your husband. I recently found porn on our home computer and I couldn't even deal with that. My husband and I have talked about and are working on it, but I can tell you that I will never get over the way that he betrayed me, lied to me and hurt me. It will take a very, very long time for me to regain the trust that I had in him. Some would think of me as a prude for thinking that it is wrong for a married man to be pleasuring himself while watching other women, but to me that is the first step to cheating. So again, it is for you alone to judge whether or not you can work through this.
If you aren't sure you have a liar and a cheat for a husband, then I'm sorry, but you're either very naive, or in a rampant state of denial. This sort of behavior escalates with certain types of men. Are you going to stick around until he's picked up by the police for soliciting an illegal prostitute? Until he transmits a potentially lethal STD to you? Until some pathetic woman shows up at your door with a paternity suit? Once trust is blown - which he has done - the relationship is done. How long you stay depends on how much misery you want to absorb.
My husand and I visited a massage parlor and they had a curtain between us. Before they began our massages they asked my husand did he want an everything massage and he said yes. My massage finised first so I peaked in on him to see how he was doing and he was laying there smiling with his eyes closed and getting jerked off. I closed the curtain and let him be. I summed it up to it's less work for me. He came out smiling and said he enjoyed his massage. He had no idea that I saw him and I was not bothered because I was there, and we were on vacation. Plus, I knew we wouldn't see them again.
The male libido wants what it wants, that's all. Just like you might want to eat fast food even though you know it's bad for you, men want to screw around with as many women as possible even though they know it can ruin their relationships. In the end, though, they'll be happier, with you and with themselves, if you just let them indulge their animal instincts once in a while.
Spoken like a true 14 year old.
Contrary to what you, and other child-minded fools, would believe, not every man has an uncontrollable libido and the maturity of a pre-pubescent teen.
I can honestly say that I wouldn't cheat on my wife, even given a guarantee of complete discretion. Why? Well there are multiple reasons. Mainly, I love my wife and my family. It's not worth it. Read that again. It's not worth it; which is my second point. Are you so simple that sex consumes that high a priority in your life? While my wife and I have a healthy sex life, I manage to not wither away and die if one of us goes on a business trip, or if she's just not in the mood. During her first trimester, she certainly didn't feel like any sort of sexual activity between the rushes to the bathroom that lasted several weeks, and I can say I was more concerned for her comfort than anything else. That's what adults do.