We have not conceived yet and husband is

[britt_justin]

I'm 23 years old and my husband is 24. I am healthy and my husband has diabetes. We have been trying to conceive for 6 months and nothing has happened yet. This month I noticed that his sex drive is decreasing and apparently he is feeling so pressured to impregnate me that he is depressed that there might be something wrong with him. I thought about getting him an appointment with my Dr. to check him out so he can rest assured that nothing is wrong. He can't get off work at all soon and I know he will not want to make that trip to the Dr.'s office. I'm trying not to let it get to me but his depression is affecting me alittle. I also feel alittle unwanted and maybe neglected. I was thinking about getting me an appointment with my Dr. to get checked out so he would feel better about going for his appoinment. Does Diabetes affect sperm count? I'm just tired of trying to conceive and having no sexual arrousal out of my husband.

[ra11en]

You guys are putting an incredible amount of pressure to conceive on yourselves and it's still very early in the attempt. Seriously - relaxation and remembering that the art of practicing is half the fun! My husband and I tried for 8 months before we got pregant the first time. 6 months isn't all that long. There's another post on this board that asks how long it took to conceive and I think that would reassure you that 6 months isn't all that long. Take some of the pressure off, and let nature take its course for a little while longer. In my opinion, you shouldn't be so worried that your husband needs to be checked just yet. Relax, enjoy, and enjoy your time alone together while you can! Trust me, when it does happen all that time you're getting to try will be out the window! A new baby puts a bigger cramp on intimacy than anything else in life!

[fuzzy]

The more you worry and stress out over it the longer it can take to happen!It's true 6 months may seem like a long time but it really isn't! A friend of mine and her husband tried tirelessly to concieve for two years and then pretty much gave up and forgot about it for awhile and then a couple months later found out they are expecting! They said themselves that just "having fun" was all they needed instead of feeling like it was a job to concieve!Good Luck!

[nliva77]

Hi, well I just found Im pregnant after 3 years of trying. Please don't get discourage. I know its easier said but really don't give up. I had a miscarriage 3 years ago and as soon as I found out I was pregnant I freaked out. i'm so scared something will happen. But I was told to think positive and thats the same advise I'm giving you. You have only been trying 6 month dut put so much pressure on yourself. Iwish you the best.

[addys_mum]

I know that it sounds awful, but seriously quit tryin'. Me and my bf were havin' some problem at the beginning and I wanted to make him love me so I stopped takin' my BC pills. I didn't get pregnant for a while, and i got so upset. and then after the 3 months mark..I did! SURPRISE. So, maybe if you stop thinkin and just enjoy it, it'll come easier.

[ra11en]

You cannot MAKE someone love you.

[Sapphyra]

Well, you'll find a lot of people have been trying for months and even years. I think that sometimes the more you stress about trying to get pregnant, the less likely it will be to happen. Kind of like psyching your body out, you know? My friend and her husband took over a year before they were able to conceive. Just try and take a step back and relax, enjoy yourselves together, make love because you love and want each other, and let the conception come when it does. Sometimes the trick is to just really have fun and not think about it so much. =)

[mumofson]

I hear you frustration....and its hard to not think about it when you want it so much. My husband and I concieved our son first try.....we have been trying 7 months for our secon baby and still nothing...don't give up, two healthy people can take upto a year, after that then go get checked out.

[beliz]

It seems that so far all of the posts have been focusing on the fact that you have only been trying 6 months. While they *do* say to try for up to a year, I'd like to point out that the fact your husband has diabetes should not be ignored. My husband and I just started trying last month, but he's lived with type 1 diabetes for 30 years now (he was diagnosed very young) and I'm definitely worried about how that might play into his fertility. Not only can diabetes affect fertility, but I've read it can also affect the quality of sperm. Since women are much more willing to go the doctor than men, I would first start out by sharing your concerns with your doctor. If he/she seems to think that your concerns are founded, it might be recommended that you start fertility testing earlier than the average young couple might. Best of luck to you!