I completly agree with you Creed. Fathers have taken a bashing but that does not mean all fathers are bad. New or experienced. May you have much joy with your nine year old. My daughter is just turning one in about two weeks.
Pappacito de Motown
An emphatic co-sign to the other posters who have already highlighted the fact that this site is for all intents and purposes by, about, and for mothers exclusively!
The ridiculous gendered assumptions about parenting in "Parenting" magazine aren't just harmful to fathers, they're harmful to children of both sexes. The prevailing assumption on this site is that fathers are basically the mom's oldest children and I can't decide if I find that notion more ridiculous or insulting.
I'm glad to see I'm not the only one that feels this way, 'cause I'm mad as hell and I'm not gonna take it any more!!!!!
As a mom I totally agree with you Creed!! My DH gets frustrated that there isn't more in the monthly parenting magazine geared towards Dad. Single full custody Dad, single shared custody Dad, shouldn't make a difference. And you're so right - there is a huge social shift going on in society and Dads are really getting involved in raising the kids, and engaging in being a primary parent in some form or fashion. I wouldn't make any decision involving my daughter without talking it over with my husband first, its his daughter as much as mine! Today's fathers are not the same as a couple generations ago, the media and other resources need to evolve already!
Its sad that this shift of perception isn't being helped along by resources such as Parenting magazine and this forum. It wasn't until recently that they even had a Dad to Dad section! And duh on the male avatar right? Come on!
Although, you would be surprised that most single mom's face the exact same reception you do as a single father. My twin sister and 2 of my close friends are single mom's, and almost 100% of the time when someone learns they are single mom's they first ask "Where's Dad" or something along those lines.
My DH refuses to post anything on this forum because he refuses to be shown next to a female avatar.
As much discrimination as us single fathers get the most obnoxios is when women think we are next to god for doing what "no Other " man has done before. ANd then thinks we need thier help because we are men and men do not know how to take care of kids............do I do that to them? My 3 boys mother ran out did I let my self think that all women have no idea how to take care of kids? NO I dont want nor need a womans help raising my boys so why do women think we are completly helpless? I am writing a paper in college on discrimination towards single parents so if any one has any info or knows of any books please let me know