As a single father of a beautiful nine year old, who has had either full or shared custody of my son since he was just a few months old, it is both frustrating and degrading to see that the only parenting magazines and web sites all entirely geared towards mothers. Fathers, especially single fathers, seem to treated like second class citizens in the courts and the social mind set when it comes to parenting, and I would hope that a magazine that is suppose to be about "Parenting" would involve both parents.
It was bad enough trying to find restaurants and truck stops that had changing stations in the men's room, especially when they offered it in the women's room. Or when people hear that I have full custody of my son the first question is what is wrong with the mother, or what did she do wrong? Is this question asked at single mothers?
I know this magazine is in the business to make money and cater to whatever market that can make them money, and unfortunately that is the mother, but do we as fathers have to be so blatantly ignored. There are some fathers who regard their children as a gift from God and know that they are the one reason they were put on this Earth. All I am asking is that we are given the same respect that a single mother does. Is that too much to ask?
Please incorporate more articles and self help advise for fathers, and not the drivel that is in this months issue -the only article in the father's section mind you - that is about a man that does not know what to do with the children when the mother is gone out of town.
I know what to expect on what kind of response I am going to get on this post, and I do know that there are too many fathers who believe that a check and one weekend a month constitutes fatherhood. But please understand that we are not all like that, and quit treating us as if we were.
So many of the article are about how to get one's figure back, or about breast feeding. Sure, that's important, but there are so few Daddy articles that it seems the magazine wants to encourage absent fathers rather than encourage full participation ont he part of fathers.
BTW, I am the main caregiver for my new adopted son. I have lost six pounds since we got him. Yes, I am getting my figure back.
I wish I could lose my baby fat, must be from all the fast food since I am too inept to cook for my son since I am a man...I don't want to burn down the house or have to do those nasty dishes afterwards, not when I can just order Dominos...
I do see what you are saying, I posted the same post on the introduction thread and have had 30 people read it but HARK, no response from any of the mothers out there who see an active father as a positive thing in this society.
Good luck with the new kid, I think it is great that more men are stepping up, I wish more would and make it easier for the rest of us so that we are not viewed as being feminem or an anamoly in this country.
Why the heck is the default avatar a female for us? how do we change it?
Seems about right
I do agree tat most parenting websites tend to emphasize a little more on mothers rather than us! But that has not stop us from doing our best to be the best dad our children can have...
I see that you are having a lot of fun and satisfactionw with your 9-yr old son! That should be the way!!! FUn and enjoyment as a parent!
Hi guys -
I am a father who had a lot of questions and wanted to ask other parents. I started a site with my wife. It is a bit more gender neutral.....of course there are more mom's on it right now...but it doesn't have to be....I know I am not the only father who is interested in his children improving
Thanks for starting the topic. I was brought to this site by a link to the "Mad at Dad" article (which I quickly found out showcases everything wrong about calling this site Parenting and not Mothering).
Being a dad is great and the more good fathers who take care of their kids the better. We'll never get the respect that moms do, but at least a lot of us do care and want to learn and try to be the best we can.
I agree - so I created www.daddysurvivalguide.com as a place by and for fathers. Men need to have child rearing geared toward them. We also host www.justfordaddy.com which is being developed as a resource center for fathers. We are currently working with the American Council on Families and Fatherhood which are government agencies that help develop men to become better fathers. I am always looking for dads who want to contribute and participate in our mission!
And yes, as a bald man I am quite disturbed by the fact that my avatar on this site is female... what does that tell you??