ok so heres a run down on me, i am a SAHM, my son is gonna be 2 in march, and i am 5 weeks pregnant with baby #2. i live in a VERY small town with nothing to do, once a week my DH gets a day off and we will go and do our running around, so i will get out of my house then. I live in Central Michigan so its VERY cold and TONS of snow! so i cant take my son out very much during this time.
so my problem is everyone is bugging me to get a job (when i say everyone its the in-laws) I dont want a job right now, and i didnt plan on getting one until all the kids are in a full day of school! they say its bad for us to be in the house all day!
i have looked all over and i cant even find a play group, or anything! the only thing thats around here are day cares and i wouldnt trust them to take care of him! not saying anything bad about day cares, but the ones around here i wouldnt even send a dog there! they are pretty bad!
i have thought about just going to friends houses but all the friends i know either just had babies or they are pregnant! so they are to young for my son to play with.
so i guess my question is, am i doing the wrong thing should i just suck it up and try to get a part time job, and send my son to a crappy day care? or should i just go about my business the way i planned?
Well first of all you have a job...you are a SAHM!!! If YOU & only YOU want a job I might consider it, but it is yours & DH's choice!! I don't know how expensive it is up there , but around here even the crappy daycares are rididculous!!! Also since you are pregnant I would definetly hold off on getting a job!! Even if you got a part-time job it probably would only be enough to cover daycare!! That is crazy IMO because that means your just paying for him to be in daycare when you could be home with him!!! I personaly wouldn't worry about what your stupid in-laws think is "right"0 or "best"!!!!
If you want to be home with your son and have the means to do so, then that is by all means what is best for your family. I live in West Michigan, so I definitely understand not getting out as much through winter. I think that your son will do just fine being home with you, but if you want more socialization for him, you could try a mom and me class, story hour at the library, or even just playing for a while in the play center of a nearby mall. As long as he's getting some interaction with others (as opposed to none), he'll be just fine. Soon (we can hope, anyways) the snow will melt and then the two of you can have fun at the park and before you know it baby #2 will be here. Don't fret about the inlaws
I was in this same situation. My IL's kept telling me that I needed a job. finally I broke down and found a job. I told everyone that it would not be worth it, and what do ya know......I was right!! We only have one car so my DH couldn't work his overtime, and between the price of gas and daycare fees we barely broke even. So learn from my experience.........only do it if it's worth and what you want. Don't let anyone else tell you what you should do. Doing what they tell you to do only proves you right and makes you wish you hadn't listened to them.
"Our best successes often come after our greatest disappointments" -Henry Ward Beecher
thanks everyone! i appreciate it! i'll just start letting it roll of my shoulders from now on! i just wanted to make sure i wasnt in the wrong.......