baby blues

[4ofus&nomore]

o.k. our first child was conceived while I was on the pill. six years later we were using condoms and our son was conceived, so as you can see both births were completely unplanned and very inconvient to us at the time. We had to figure out job situations and daycare situations. Lets just say both pregnancies the doctor had me on bed rest for preterm labor stress induced!! o.k. my husband and I agreed after two unplanned with protection pregnancies that he would get fixed. So six weeks after our baby boy was born he went in and done the deed. Well here I am four and a half years later wanting a baby so bad I can taste it. I am a SAHM now and I feel like I can enjoy my pregnancy finally. But come on it is pretty difficult to have a vesectamy reversed. and then you have a very low chance to make live sperm again so the doc says. But anyways have any of you had this happen. Four years ago I really didnt want another no way no how one was our agreed limit then god gave us #2 so we decided to take that drastic move. DH still says it was the right thing to do, he says its just a phase or hormones for me that even if we had another that one would grow up too. ( our baby will be starting kgarten next august.) I am having baby withdraws and cant do anything about it.

[tierrajo1]

I have three, two of which were "suprises". Because they were so close together and two of them were very big, I had some complications after and am on several doctor's recommendations not to get pregnant again in the near future. My hubby and I have gone back and forth, we said we did not want to have anymore and he was going to get the vasectomy but we decided to wait a few years, see how we felt then and decide. I know we do not want anymore children right now, we have a three year old, a two year old, and a nine month old and it would be too much. But, I will admit there are moments when my children are behaving and being so sweet and cute and I think wouldn't it be nice to have another. But, then on days like yesterday when they are all cranky and fighting and my son is painting his face and the walls in his own poop I think there is no way in hell I am doing this again! I have always wanted to adopt, I have brought three beautiful children into this world but there are so many children already here who need someone to love them, and I hope that this is what we will do in a few years, adopt an older child and then when my children are older get into foster care. I would say wait a little bit and see how you feel. The feelings may pass or you may realize that you really do want another child. I have heard vasectomies can be reversible but I do not know that much about it. But there is always adoption or other alternatives if that doesn't work. Good luck!