I don't typically do this, but I must say, right now I need some advice concerning my soon-to-be step child and his Grandmother. My fiance' is absolutely wonderful; he is a great father who is currently seeing his son every weekend while his mother has him during the school week. The fiance's mother on the other hand is, well... a handful on her own. Everytime there have been get togethers including her the topic of conversation is always the child and his mother (who my fiance has not been with since his son was 6 months old). It isn't conversation about how wonderful she was, it is constant nagging and criticism. She is always worried about whether he is being taken care of, pushing us to fight for sole custody, complaining his mother may run off and we won't ever get to see him again, etc. When this happens, I really get upset. I understand that there is a child involved, but we are also getting married and starting a life of our own. Has anyone had experience with an oversensitive mil? Or, a mother-in-law who can't let go of her grandchild even though her son is moving on and starting a new life of his own? How should I handle this situation? Also, there is nothing legal about there relationship with the child. Nothing has been signed, no custody agreement, nothing. I would like to talk to my fiance before we marry about about a written agreement before this gets out of control.