First off, I am not a parent. I am a young adult who has recently moved in with his father. My father has a wife and 3 kids. I have an issue with the cleanliness of my fathers wife. I grew up in a household where my mother was a neat freak and always on top of everything, and I always pitched in with the cleaning chores. I clean the house I live in nearly everyday, and I wake up every morning to a messy house all over again. The kids are 10, 5, and 22 months. The kid's mother drives school bus and is home from 9:30 until 1:30. So I feel there is no reason for me to have to pick up after them every day. She give's the 22 month old food and lets her walk all over the house with it. I know why she does it. She does it so the child will leave her alone. I was just wondering if its normal for parent's to allow the children to strew food all over the house at a young age or if it is specifically the mother. Im really starting to struggle with it and I feel like I am only going to be able to deal with it for so much longer before i have to sit down and have a talk with the mother. I dont want to overstep my boundaries, but i feel like it needs to be done. It makes me feel very uncomfortable living like this and i really could use any input or advice thats out there.
Well, You did state you are an ADULT, you don't like it MOVE OUT! Although I do feel it is wrong not to sit the child down for a meal, it is her and you fathers house, you moved in with them, so you have no right to say anything about how they chose to live.