my boys are out of control! HELP!

[Luvmyboyz81]

I am the mother of 2 young boys, my oldest will be 5 in a few days, my youngest will be 3 in November. I am having behavior issues with both of them. My oldest just started Kindergarten a month ago and he is already on a behavior contract. He has issues almost daily with everything from hitting, pushing, name calling, throwing pebbles, and even poking another kid with a fork. All of these incidents have occured during less structured times like lunch or recess, he is great during classroom time. We have conversations daily on his behavior and knowing right from wrong and making good choices but he continues to "act out". When i ask him why he does these things, he says "i dont know". he does have consequences such as timeouts, taking things away, etc but still not much improvement. Before school, he attended daycare so this isnt his first time around other children. His father and I are currently seperated but maintain a good relationship so I dont think thats why he is acting this way but it could be. My youngest has a bad attitude, spits at me, talks back constantly and always tells me NO. He also has consequences and I have even threatened to put soap in his mouth but he seems to be getting worse. He yells and screams and argues with me about everything, if i say can you please pick up your toys he responds with "no mommy, you do it" but he yells it. i want to address this now because he will be 10 times worse when he gets to school age if I dont. I really dont know what else to do about this, does anyone have any ideas??? please help.

[Swati88]

This is the age,you need to tackle them with love.Every kid used to do this.Instead of scolding you love them,they will definetely be good for sure!!