Fist off, my son is not a slacker or looser. He has a part time job, gets good grades in school, plays football, and has a boyfriend(he's gay). The only problem is that he smokes marijuana everyday.
A few weeks ago, I noticed a clicking noise coming from his bathroom while he was taking a shower. The next day, after hearing the noise, I realized it was a lighter. After he was done with his shower, I opened up a cupboard in his bathroom to find a small box. After opening this box, I found:
-twine (not sure what he uses that for).
I soon noticed that he smokes everyday.
I quickly closed the box so I could think more about it. As I said above, he is not a loser, and his use of marijuana does not affect the rest of his life. He is very good kid, and has never been in any major trouble with his school or the law. Also, I know about the facts behind the drug, and I understand fully that marijuana isn't that dangerous. Oh yeah, he is 16.
Should I just continue to act like I don't know about his drug use? Or should I do something. Help?
Talk to him about it. I was about 15/16 when my mom caught me and my sister sampling some marijuana one spring evening. My mom "shunned" us for a day or so, came up with some punishment that unspokenly taught us our lesson, and then we went about our business. My dad asked us one day to help take the top off our old Wrangler. A few minutes in, he said' "So, I heard Mom came downstairs the other night and everyone was having a joint." Slightly shocked, we admitted to it. Then we listened to him tell us about the time he tried it once, with Mom and our aunt and uncle! Apparently Uncle Chuck was NOT a fan.
After a few more stories about the glory days, we listened to him tell us to be careful. He reminded us (gently) about what it would mean if we got caught by the police instead of Mom. That was eleven years ago. The moral of the story is, if you can have a conversation rather than a "sit-down", if you open up the lines of communication, he'll always remember it.
you definitly need to address this. i agree that you cannot yell or preach to him. he is in the experimenting stage of his life and he is certainly not alone. the problem is it is so widespread and becoming more acceptable (thinking medical marijuana) that I would discuss with him the consequences of an illegal act and the harm that he is doing to his body by enhaling the smoke and the TCH (THC?) that causes the high. it is important also that he knows that he can talk to you about things he is curious about and that he has a safe place with you and that you will not judge him or take advantage of the confidence he is placing in you. it is not a habit that you want him to get into so I would deal with it asap. best of luck.