I need help!!

[mimomof3]

I have a 4 year old, that has been potty trained since he was 2 1/2. But has always had issues pooping. Not physically but mentally. He went to 3 school last year (would not poop there), and now while he is at the sitter, home or even grandma and grandpa's he is pooping his pants. What is going on? Anyone have this? What do I do? I don't want to punish him so to speak. But atleast before he was using the toilet. He would hold it forever, but he went on potty. Now it is always in his pants. And he will sit in them until you figure it out. Any ideas of what I can do? I have a total of three boys and this one is stumping me!

[holly228301]

4 years old SHOULD be going in the toilet, don't PUNISH him or RIDICULE him, but let him know that is NOT where he is SUPPOSED to be going, and it SHOULD go in the potty... maybe its the fact that when he pees he is standing up and can see the hole in the toilet and knows nothing is coming out of the toilet bowl to grab his bottom, but when he is sitting, he can't see that... when i was little i had a dream that something came out of there... i was scared to use the potty for a while.... that could be traumatizing for a kid... but maybe to give him incentive to use the toilet, have a "potty party" my sister did this with her kid... it worked wonders! he was excited to have a potty party