The 2008 Stinky Diaper Awards

[jenn_0629]

I agree with you Mommymara, for the most part. I think it's great that you can see how she does set a good example for teens who are mothers. But I feel like you make the mistake of thinking that "most" teen mothers are not good ones. You cannot say "most" aren't, because there are so many great ones. And, one thing that I have seen happening is that girls do look up to her and think that her life as a mother is glamorous. That babies are cool. She isn't exploiting herself, but her situation is being exploited.

The thing about being a mother is that...there really isn't a "good and bad." Or "most mom's are ____" Whether you are a 17 or 30...being a parent isn't easy work. We all know that.

[c_helwig89]

What upset me (other than the Jamie Lynn thing) was Denis Leary for his chapter called "Autism Shmautism"! If anyone had taken the time to research or READ the chapter, they'd see that he knows a few autistic children, and says that they're "smart and industrious" and that he admirers parents who have to go through that, and that those parents were his inspiration for writing the chapter, because too many parents blame their own parenting flaws or flaws in their children and try to get them labeled autistic when they're really only "lazy and stupid."

I know the book wasn't published yet when the stinky diaper awards were posted, but maybe they should have waited before jumping to conclusions. Would he really be serious about that? (And has anyone else seen other chapter names??)

Also, on the Eli Stone episode- that took up about 2 minutes, it's not even what that episode is about. And as far as people believing medical advice they see in shows- that's their own sheer stupidity.

[charliesmommy]

I think that Jamie Lynn is in a perfect situation to let teenaged girls know that yes, being a mother is a wonderful thing but it's not easy. She makes it seem easy because she has money and she's not letting girls know that it's not all hearts and flowers. She is 'glamorizing' it by not telling the whole truth about being a parent. Teenaged girls who want to get pregnant think that they will end up with a baby doll and not a child that they have to take care of 24/7. Jamie Lynn is in the perfect possition to tell the real truth and give young women the opportunity to make a more informed dicision about getting pregnant and she is not doing that. She is a role model because she chose to be in the limelight. I don't think that she would have gotten a stinky diaper award if she were helping other young women by telling the whole story.

[Mommymara]

She is a role model because she chose to be in the limelight. I don't think that she would have gotten a stinky diaper award if she were helping other young women by telling the whole story.
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I agree to this and perhaps she will in time, but she is still a new mother and I know that my #1 focus at her point when I had my son was taking care of my son... I see her doing something maybe with Maddie is a year old or something, but just becuase she hasnt done it YET, doesnt mean that she never will. Its hard to say "its hard to be a mommy" when you've only had a few months to really experience it. if she would have come out and said "being a mommy is sooo hard blah blah blah," weeks after having a child... I see people reacting to that in "shes only beena mom a few weeks! what does she know about being a mother..."
and seriously. what woudl people say about her if she did say that right away... the same thing that they have already been saying " oh she cant handle it" but I think she is trying to prove that she can. andI think she should, for all the people who talked down about her, Iw ould prove them wrong too.

[charliesmommy]

I don't know, I figured out that it was hard to be a mommy within the first week.

The fact of the matter is that she is not setting a good example for young women by getting pregnant by a boy who is unfaithful and then doing it again. Nor is she taking this opporunity to tell the whole truth about motherhood.

Who knows, maybe she doesn't find it hard. She probably has a nanny. I wouldn't have found it hard if I had a nanny that's for sure!

[APEMBERTON]

I don't know, I figured out that it was hard to be a mommy within the first week.

The fact of the matter is that she is not setting a good example for young women by getting pregnant by a boy who is unfaithful and then doing it again. Nor is she taking this opporunity to tell the whole truth about motherhood.

Who knows, maybe she doesn't find it hard. She probably has a nanny. I wouldn't have found it hard if I had a nanny that's for sure!

Well I think it is clear that she didn't purposely get pregnant & she cannot help HE ( if he actually did...no one knows for sure) cheated on her!! My question is what do you want her to do about "telling the whole truth"... if she were to whine & say it is super hard everbody would condemn(sp?) her & say what a horrible mother ..yada..yada..yada.. The poor girl can't win!! She may not have time to do all this talking about motherhood right nor should she be expected to. She may also really enjoy it ..even if it is not the perfect or best time to become a mother!!

[charliesmommy]

I'm sorry Mommymara and APEMBERTON, but did I not say that she should tell both sides??? The only quotes we've gotten from her have been about how great it is to be a mom. Yea, it is, but that's not the whole truth. I can't imagine that the majority of people out there would fault her for saying something like; "I love being a mom. It's the hardest thing I've ever done, but it is a great feeling."

Come on APEMBERTON, do you really think that she is that stupid to get pregnant by mistake again (if that story is true). If so, that goes back to the fact that she is a BAD ROLE MODEL and she deserves the stinky diaper award! Which is exactly what Parenting said. Getting pregnant once by mistake at 17 is not that bad, doing it again doesn't show very much responsibility nor does it make for a good role model.

[APEMBERTON]

Yes if she is pregnant again..Lord forbid..it would be different.. but for now that is just a story (like him cheating on her) from the tabloids...so I don't think she deserves that award until she confirms that it is true..& even then yet again she isn't the cause of teenage pregnancy...heck it used to be the "norm" in the good old days to get married at 15 or 16 & start popping them out!!lol!! Why would she get an award for something that MIGHT be true..not IS true!!
Also have you read every single statement she has made after pregnancy??? Do you read her blogs & such??? I personally have not , so who knows she may have said your exact quote before???? You are judging based off of the things you have seen & read & how many articles is that?

[APEMBERTON]

PS/ I hope I haven't offended you at all!!I like to discuss things & I am very blunt just so you know!!!

[charliesmommy]

I'm not offended at all.

I honestly don't know or care what she says on her blogs. She obviously isn't saying anything of the sort publicly or we would know about it. She's in a great position to communicate the truth about being a parent and she isn't. I'm sure Oprah or Tyra would LOVE to have her on their shows telling young women that being a mom is tough and rewarding. Not just rewarding.