2nd Baby Depression?

[ashdunmire]

Please help me! I was so happy when I was pregnant with my daughter, and I was hoping for the same thing this time around. All I want to do is cry or beat somebody up, and I'm having a hard time getting excited about the baby. I hate to admit that. We were trying for a baby, so it isn't like it was an accident. My husband hardly talks about the baby, and is convinced i am cheating on him (which I never have and never will). I am just at my wits end, and I don't know what to do.

[little_happy_B]

I'm sorry to hear that you're facing all this, especially with your husband! Hormones really can make a mess... In the beginning of my pregnancy I was facing the same problem sort of, all the time wanted to cry or beat somebody up and also had hard time to get excited about the baby! Just the same, the baby was planed, we wanted it! It took some time till things became more easy for me, probably things settled down when I started to feel her! I really don't know to say anything smart, but things sure will get better! And I'm sure that you will be as well excited about your baby!

[kburke]

I think you should talk to your doctor. there may be something they can do to help you.

[noesmom]

Sorry that you are feeling down. I can kind of relate to what you are going through. Our first child was not planned and while we were nervous at first, we became very excited quickly and elated at the thought of having a baby. While I have been thinking about another child, my husband was not really on board. Our daughter is 4 now and I took a pregnancy test a couple of days ago and it came out positive. I should be happy and excited, but I am really terrified about the changes it's going to bring. Ironically, my husband seems more calm about the situation. I feel somewhat sad because I am so close to my daughter and wonder what a sibling with 5 years difference is going to be like for everyone. Also, I am 37, making me even more worried. Hopefully my blues will go away, and I hope your spirits are lifted very soon too.

[brandie1127]

You have to resolve the cheating thing! Are there any reasons that he might think this? I hate to say it especially because you are already having a hard time but spouses who are "so sure" that their SO is cheating usually have some infidelities in the closet themselves and its the way their guilt is expressed. They think about what they did and then how they got away with it and ALL OF A SUDDEN they start to wonder if you have "gotten away with " anything too.

I think the no trust factor is a serious thing.

I wish you the best of luck and dont worry about hating your pregnancy, I hated mine in the beginning and I've adjusted now but I'm sure the next time I see the + sign on a pee stick my first reaction is going to be "UGH its gonna be a LONG 40 weeks!" not YAY we're pregnant ... because WE aren't anything ... I am pregnant and frankly its annoying!

[eniese]

Our second pregnancy was a complete surprise, and I had a difficult time being excited about it until about halfway through. I found that I was more emotional during the entire pregnancy than I had been with our first. Somehow, now that you KNOW what it's like to have a baby, the giddy emotions are harder to come by and fear of labor, sleepless nights, colick, feeding problems, etc. seem to crowd out more pleasant feelings during pregnancy. However, I've found that since our daughter was born, I've handled the transition from 1 to 2 kids with much more ease than going from 0 to 1 kid. The happy feelings did come, and most of the fear went away.