Is husband bashing beneficial?

[sherriejoy]

I need to unload with my girlfriends about my husband little (or big) annoyances. I notice that after I bash him a little a feel lighter and in better mood. In a way by just talking about a problem it makes more manageable. Should husband bashing be encouraged in order to help a marriage?

SJ

[pennyroyal]

personally, i think that everyone needs someone to talk to and trust, so that they can get things off their chest, whether it be husband bashing or just complaining about things that annoy you in life. however, i think that communication with your partner should be encouraged, more so than husband bashing should be. it might make you feel better to rant to your friends about how dumb your husband is being at the time, but nothing is going to change if you cant talk to him about what is bothering you. everyone needs to keep that in mind, when they talk to their friends about their personal lives. even though you feel better, once its all off your chest.. its not over, and your relationship is worth working on if you love eachother.. so keep the doors open when it comes to communicating with your spouse or partner.

[Teresacamma]

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[amglol]

As long as you realize you have no right to be upset when/if your husband criticizes you in front of his friends, then feel free...

[irishblueyes]

If talking to your friends about your husband behind his back makes you feel better, I wonder how you would feel if your husband does the same thing - talking about you to his friends about your shortcomings. It's better to have an open communication with your spouse so both of you can solve the problem in your married life.

[pollack]

Definitely, as mutual understanding is the best think to have among your relations to talk about and solve the matters you might have in your life. Rather than discussing and sharing with your friends and relatives, as sometime it could lead to some severe problems, in spite of resolving.

[storiesinthemail]

Short answer = No. *grin*

Here's how I see it... it's true that everybody needs somebody to talk to when it comes to challenging situations. But bashing is counterproductive. I mean, okay, you feel good afterwards, but what kind of perception does that leave the friend or friends about your husband? Is it an accurate one or is it only one side of a whole human? Sometimes, when you place your spouse in a negative light, that negativity stays in the minds of people outside of the marriage, even if there are plenty of good examples.

I look at it this way... when I'm talking to my buddies about my wife, am I saying anything that would needlessly hurt her if she were to over hear? Am I saying anything that (if the tables were turned) would needlessly hurt me?

I greatly respect my wife and would never want to hurt her, nor would I ever want to find out she was "bashing" me after a fight. But above that, I want to be a good role model for our kids and I would feel like I was setting a poor example if any of them were to hear me bashing my wife as a method to vent. There are other ways to vent that can't be construed as hurtful.

Anyway, that's just my humble opinion.

[1stTimeParent]

From a man's point of view, it'll only do more harm than good, like resentment and will eventually lead to you drifting apart if you are not careful.

Talk to him and set expectations, let him know what you want and why you are upset and come up with a compromise, men aren't mind readers =). Be open in your communication or your spouse will communicate with another person or worst another woman.

[1stTimeParent]

From a man's point of view, it'll only do more harm than good, like resentment and will eventually lead to you drifting apart if you are not careful.

Talk to him and set expectations, let him know what you want and why you are upset and come up with a compromise, men aren't mind readers =). Be open in your communication or your spouse will communicate with another person or worst another woman.