Hello, and thanks in advance for your help.

My wife is a childcare provider, and the parent of the kids that she provides care for is a very minimalistic mother. My wife has to preform all tasks related to hygiene like baths (or they will only occur once every 1-2 weeks), tooth brushing (they maybe brushed once per week, and no effort was put forth), changing of underwear (could go a week), etc. Corndogs and chicken nuggets are the main source of nutrition, except for the balanced meals we prepare.

4 year old is starting to have problems "down there".
All of the kids have diminished dental health.

We have contacted our dept of social services for advise, and they suggested that we work with the mother to teach her what the right thing to do is. We do not have children of our own yet, but we do have common sense and it feels like these concepts are something that comes natural - right along with the need to know you are giving these kids the best you can. Her mother bone is broken, and we want to figure out a way to teach her how to parent.

The kids are 8, 6, 4, and toddler.

Does anyone know of a document or set of guidelines that we can print out, highlight, and give to her so that she knows what her responsibilities are? Everything i googled had to do with neglect laws and such. The idea is that she should not be doing bare minimum not to be arrested, she should be doing what i socially acceptable (everything she can).

Can anyone help me out?

Thanks again.