I really feel hopeless here.
We used to have a sweet angle that slept in her own crib but everything changed since we traveled long-distance.
She's now one year old, and I'm retraining her to sleep in her own bed with Super Nanny's bed separation technique, which you put baby into the crib and sit on the floor , listen to him/her cry until asleep.
It's only been the third day, but it seems to make her separation anxiety worse.
She won't stop crying unless I hold her; she cries at the sight of her own room; she cries and cries and cries...
She used to be a happy baby with minor separation anxiety.
Am I making a big mistake training her? My mom even criticize me of "torturing" my kid.
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making sure that you remain consistent in your solutions is deffinitely a key piece to a situation like this. you are not torturing your child, or making a big mistake in my opinion. some parents would put the child to bed, close the door, and then let them cry and cry until they fall asleep. to me, thats more like torture. she has to learn to sleep in her own bed, and i think that your technique is the most loving, and the most gentle. when she cries, & youre sitting with her in the room, avoid picking her up. instead, calmly tell her that you're there, and that everything is okay.. letting her know that its time for nite nite. its deffinitely not going to happen over nite, so patience and reassurance is really important. also, remain consistent and (if you dont have one already) establish a before bedtime routine. whether it be tucking her in and then reading her a story, singing a goodnite lullaby together, or even a warm bath. anything that might make her feel more comfortable and close to you might help.
it might seem impossible right now, but it will get easier and eventually she will get used to sleeping in her own bed more and more, and then you can start weening her off from having you in the room altogether. just be patient with your daughter and give it time.
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Last edited by maryjamison; 03-18-2012 at 09:30 AM.
indeed its very tough thing.But make them understand with love.they will surely obey you.